They say we all have kinks. Do you agree with this statement, guys? If so, what are your deepest sexual desires and how often do you think about and/or act on your sexual kinks? More importantly, do you tell your partner or husband or boyfriend or hook ups about your sexual fantasies and what you want in bed?
Wikipedia defines kink as:
In human sexuality, kinkiness is the use of non-conventional sexual practices, concepts or fantasies. The term derives from the idea of a “bend” (cf. a “kink”) in one’s sexual behaviour, to contrast such behaviour with “straight” or “vanilla” sexual mores and proclivities.
Anyway, if you do have sexual kinks and fantasies, no worries, you certainly are not alone in that regard. In fact, having sexual fantasies and fantasizing aren’t as unusual as you think, even some kinks and fetishes which you may think are taboo or weird, we just didn’t know how common some of these sexual fantasies are. This is according to the result of the study conducted by Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller, a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute.
Dr. Lehmiller surveyed 4,175 Americans; he studied their sexual fantasies and wrote about his findings in his book titled Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. The results of his study revealed that the most fantasized about kink is BDSM, which stands for Bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism. Further, Dr. Lehmiller said his survey showed that “93% of men and 96% of women had fantasized about some aspect of BDSM before.”
Fetish fantasies came next in the list of most common fantasies with foot fetish as the most popular. This is followed by body fluids (like ejaculate, spit, urine, etc.) while voyeurism came in fourth.
Do you fantasize about putting on a show, exposing yourself in public, or having sex with an audience? If so, this means you’re into exhibitionism. It’s in contrast with voyeurism where people fantasize about watching someone else undress or have sex instead of the other way around.
There are also others who fantasize about “taking on different roles and ages” like “dressing up and/or acting as a child,” this is called age play, says Dr. Lehmiller. If you fantasize about having sex while dressed up as an animal then you have the makings of a furry like the 9% of the survey participants in the aforementioned study.
Does your partner “force” you to dress as a woman (with sex in mind, of course)? Then you guys are into gender play.
Meanwhile, Dr. Lehmiller revealed that 58% of his male respondents said they fantasized about watching their partner have sex with someone else. This is called cuckolding and we recently talked about it here.
Lastly, do you use food while having sex? Do you lather his neck or chest with honey or whipped cream which you then lick off of him? It’s called food play and 40% of Dr. Lehmiller’s study participants had fantasized about this before.
And there you have it, guys! Did your fantasy make it to the list? If you want to know more about kinks you can read Dr. Lehmiller’s book or you can read his article here in full.
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for me i am kinky but not very sexual. i fantasize most often about kink and for me the standard top/bottom/oral doesn’t excite or interest me that much.
I do indeed, have my kinks/fetishes, lmao, I’m rather adventurous, passionate… a little sadistic, masochistic, too. Reminds me of a date I had down here in Flo., I met him on this very site.
He asked me with his Texan accent, “so, how do you like your pain?” Now, that told me a few things that excited the hell outta me; aside from his overall attractiveness, he’s not all bottom for sure, bonus for being “open-minded” yeah, he was great fun and stimulating as all hell!
Kink is great for those who find it an enhancement for sex. Personally, I’m too much of a realist who lives in the moment. I enjoy the subtleties of sexual pleasure such as they are. Kink for me is a distraction.
My kink is definitely bondage. Although I tend to be more dominant, ideally would like to find someone to trade off with. It is nice to be able to control another guy and he in turn do it to me. Nothing too serious though, I use rubber handcuffs and easy knots and always a safe word. Want the other guy to be totally comfortable with me and what I’m doing. Sometimes combine this with hot candle wax. Tying or being tied is similar to edging with some guys, it builds excitement and I back off when he is almost ready… Read more »
I have found that my interest in “kinks” has been related to my partner at the time. I have enjoyed exploration and experimentation with a partner that has been interested in the same and we have had greats times sexually as a result.
I’m open to let a guy tie me over something and then use me as much and any time he wants to get my backside fucked for like 2 hours straight before he unties me. Also a fantasy to have a MF couple let me take care of her M while she watches or she is pegging me. Also wax and toys are hot too. Only get one time to have fun so might as well try it all…