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It’s one of those questions that’s usually kept behind closed doors or whispered in the privacy of close friends: “How many guys do you sleep with per year?
one gay man asks—and the gay internet responded with an array of honest, funny, reflective, and explicit answers—from the romantically monogamous to the unapologetically adventurous. He added: “And where/how are you finding them?”
One guy asked back, “Are we talking sex or just oral? Sex: 1 or so. Oral, lmao. Like 40.”
This guy isn’t shy about distinguishing between different kinds of play.
On the other hand, there are gay guys who have long-term lovers like this one who shared, “One, for the last 15 years.” Another guy replied,
“I’m monogamous and been with my husband a decade now. 35. I’d rather have the comfort of company constantly than have short bursts of excitement.” This man shares the same sentiment: “I’m monogamous and engaged to be married, so one.” He added, “No judgment on polyamorous people. It’s just not for me.” These men reflect a side of gay life that isn’t always seen in mainstream media: deep, long-term, monogamous love. It’s not boring—it’s commitment with chemistry.
Further, one guy confessed he has weekly encounters: “On average one or two a week.”
This answer keeps it short and to the point: some people like frequent connection, and that’s okay too.
In addition, this gay man revealed he has now shifted from his slut phase to selective, “During my college slut phase, at least 10 a year. Nowadays, at most 3. Those 3 being the same people. I’ve since severely limited myself to who I sleep with to be safe.”
Many guys go through phases—and this man’s story shows how preferences and priorities can shift with age, experience, and values.
Meanwhile, this guy’s answer is quite the opposite, he said that his sexual journey is just getting started: “I’m 28 and only started having sex with guys 3 months ago. Not sure how many guys I’ve been with so far, maybe 20–25.” There’s always someone just beginning their sexual journey, and in the span of a few months, this guy is clearly exploring and enjoying the ride.
So, what about you, Adam4Adam blog readers?
Everyone’s sex life is different, and there’s no one “right” number. Whether you’re happily monogamous, open and experimental, just getting started, or proudly in your “slut era” or selective phase, the important thing is that it’s consensual, safe, and satisfying—for you and your partner.
Adam4Adam blog readers, we want to hear from you: how many guys do you sleep with per year? Where do you meet them—here on Adam4Adam, bars, friends, saunas, events? Has your number changed over the years? Why or why not? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below.
We had this subject already, just a while ago, but no, never, guess I’m not that juvenile.
yo, gives the older slices of white bread a little spread
Agreed. And those who run the Blog continue to not ask what posters wish to discuss. Success in terms of member/poster satisfaction would be like shooting fish in a barrel. But no, It’s “hot or not?”; celebrities, voyeurism (as in the current topic as they vicariously join others’ lives); Gay porn star favorites, Jussie plants a ring …
Will they ever ask what posters/members want to discuss? Duh, they’d have several weeks, if not months, of content.
yo, lots of bread crumbs
I’ve been more selective as I’ve gotten older. I was never in a “slut phase” in my youth but I would have done maybe 1 or 2 different guys per month. Now it’s still 1 or 2 per month but with the same small selection of guys.
So far this year terms of fucking I think 3… oral is probably 5… 2023 I was way more active and made a concerted effort to lower my numbers. I took a comprehensive sti/std test in April of this year and was given clean bill of health. I’d like to stay that way. I now ask for recent test from partners to make sure they are all cleared too before I engage with them.
I don’t keep track, so I did some calculating. I have nine FWBs that I’ve known for a decade or two within a 75-mile radius. Three of them I get to connect with once or twice a year. We keep in contact and stay up on what’s happening in our lives. Another four I get to connect with 1-3 times per week. Usually one-on-one but sometimes schedules line up for three-somes. The last two I get to connect a few to several times per year as we can. So it looks like sex is about 80 times a year. Glad… Read more »
Annually about 6-10 different guys. More in the summer at nudist lake
I keep count. I’m a BiMM totally hidden in the closet, but I’ve been carrying on this double-life for years unbeknown to my wife and all others. For me, getting my on/off dose of gay sex on avg. of 1x a month give-or-take is like doing it for sport: It has no romantic meaning to me at all and it’s solely for the physical enjoyment. And I do keep count not only of every guy I’m with but also every single experience. My lifetime count is in the multi 100s – a figure I consider hot and a little scary.
Bi married here also, very straight and a alpha male in my everyday life , very DL ,and deep in the closet, I don’t have and romantic attractions either, I do like to get to know and build a sexual and trusted relationship because I do enjoy sucking men off and I usually swallow, it’s hard for me to do that with strangers, but I do know it more and more married men these days
You married guys are the Best,suck,fuck a dick sore,love you guys!!
I’m in the same situation, BiMM and in the closet. With the exception of a friend in 8th and 9th grade I started having mansex when I was around 30 (mid 50’s now). I lost count a long time ago but I would guess the number is around 50-60. I’ve slowed down a lot now that I’m married and I’m much more selective. For the last year I’ve had 1 married FWB and we only meet once every couple months.
always easier to remember “How Many” than “Who Were”?
I lost count at 5k
WoW,4 real
I try to be very careful, so I try have a relationships with my men, at 47 I may have been with 20 men, but between the 20 men I’ve probably sucked about 15 of the off so many times I can’t count, And between the 20 of them, I’ve been fucked way too many times to even approximate, I enjoy being a bottom and being used by other men for their sexual desires ,
Oh in my youth, I was a whore. Hundreds. Seriously. Not anymore, though. Stopped being your Private Dancer, lol.
Who is SO INSECURE and JUVENILE that they keep a count!!! Those days are LONG GONE – decades ago!!! 🙂
No I don’t get out and about like that,I fuck with the same bottom guys for years