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Have you ever been to a sex party? If so, how was it?
We’re bringing this up because of a gay man who recently took to Reddit to share his experience. He said, “Just went to my first sex party. Honestly, it’s better than searching for a hookup. A guy scouts handsome men from apps and invites them to his house and everyone just fucks. There’s an open bar, lube, poppers, and snacks. Literally best thing I’ve done. I came in three different guys.”
Later, he explained how he got invited: “To those asking how I was invited; I’m from a large town with many gay men. I’ve been on the hookup apps for years, and there are ‘recruiters’ who look at your profile and determine if you’ll be a good fit.” He added, “They send you a link to their private site with their address and how to get there. I’ve been invited since 2018 and signed up for their text alerts. I decided to give it a try after 7 years of ignoring them.”
Of course, one of the most important questions came up right away, “More importantly, what were the snacks?” someone joked. Because really, between rounds, you gotta refuel!
Meanwhile, one gay man shared his own experience, painting a colorful picture of sex parties: “Before I got with my boyfriend, I used to pop a bluechew and visit an orgy every Monday. I would drink beer and watch Futurama between loads while I played with the dog. Also, the roommate of the host is/was a Helix model and was rude as hell. I had lots of fun though, topped a bunch of guys that honestly I don’t think I’d fuck otherwise because they were out of my league—like hot af twinks gripping with their tight hole, it was amazing.” Clearly, for some, sex parties are not just about the sex but also the unforgettable (and sometimes weird) moments in between.
Another commenter simply said: “Yes orgies are the best. Have you tried gangbang?” This suggests that once some gay men get used to sex parties, some venture into even more adventurous group activities.
Still, not everyone sees sex parties through rose-tinted glasses. One person raised an important concern about safety: “What about STDs? Is the assumption that everyone is on PrEP or everyone brings receipts from the doctor saying everyone is good to go?” It’s a real issue worth considering before heading to a party.
Others mentioned the risks of substance use: “[I] Don’t have a high tolerance to alcohol or drugs, so [I] want to avoid going to places where I can lose control. Some friends have had rough experiences so I’d rather just have sex with a guy I’m getting to know or already been with. If he brings a friend or two, that’s different.”
Concerns about privacy were also echoed: “Never went to one, although I know people that did… I have always been thinking that if I did someone would have been taking videos without my consent…. DK.” Trust and respect are major issues when you put yourself in vulnerable spaces.
On the other hand, some participants absolutely love sex parties like this guy who said, “Love orgy parties given by gays who always know guys with the biggest cocks and twinks with the sexiest mouths.” It’s clear that, for many, the experience can be incredibly hot and satisfying.
Speaking of parties and events, you can create one at Adam4Adam under Parties & Events. Parties & Events, like the name suggests, are parties or events ads that you can create to invite other users to participate. There are two types of parties & events ads: user’s parties/events or company’s parties/events. For more information, you may check here and here.
Now, we want to hear from you, Adam4Adam blog readers, have you ever been to a sex party? If so, how was it? What advice would you give to someone thinking about going to one for the first time? What are your biggest concerns—or hottest memories? Share your stories and experiences with us in the comments section down below!
At a place on the Southside of Chicago, I go to what we call a “fukfest”, i.e., I call it that on Fridays and/or Saturdays from 11 p.m. to 6:30 a.m….Free lube and condoms, which, honestly, are rarely used and poppers are $30 a bottle…thanks to IQ 45.47 in the White House. Liquir is free along with ice, juice and bottled water. All for $15-$20, depending on the time of arrival. As I commented on a previous topic, I fucked 6 guys there, nutted in 2 of them, and only dislike it being held almost 20 miles away from me.… Read more »
Poppers were $20 a bottle ten years ago, so that they’re $30 now isn’t really that surprising. They feds are also cracking down on poppers manufacturers. Double Scorpio, which is based in Austin, was raided in March. As of today, their site is still down and they’re still non-operational.
Never had the opportunity to do this. Would probably try it.
No, too many liars in one room.
Russian Roulette on multiple legs
Russian Roulette bipeds
Adam4Adam is a rich place to be if you’re comparing having sex with strangers to playing Russian roulette.
too much wealth corrupts!
Been there, done that- got fucked a LOT! Haven’t been to a party in years- these days it’s mostly just JO parties (yawn).
Oh, no, absolutely not, not even when I was younger. They have them around this time of year here in Soflo., I wouldn’t advise it, personally.
Never. Sounds like buying a lottery ticket for AIDS.
There are these things called condoms and PREP. Are you new to the whole sexual health conversation?
HIV is tough to get. HPVs, HSVs, quite easy. Getting warts or even Syph is possible even with condom usage. Screening is always needed.
Damn Norman are you using any form of protection when you have sex??
Absolutely not!!! It was a bucket list item of mine, so I had one years ago in February during black history month. The theme was “Brothers Night Out” I had it at a beautiful holiday Inn suite. I hand picked the guys from a4a. I knew all of the 10 guys. I picked versa, top and bottom guys. I had bowls of condoms and breath mints all over the suite. I supplied the lube. We had beer, water and chips. I charged only $10 because it was something I wanted to do. I knew it was only a one time… Read more »
Russian Roulette is more precise?
Duh.. hasn’t everyone?
I never been to one, but know a few that have… I’m intrigued but I’ll probably be way too shy to partake in something like that..
It’s a great place for shy types. You don’t have to say a word . If a guy likes you he will stick his penis in your mouth. No conversation needed.
If you’ve met me 25-30 years ago, even now, you probably would think I was either too reserved or too conceited to go to a sex party. But I was deep in them. I live in SoCal. There were always sex parties going on, countless. I was more of a voyeur than a participant, but I definitely had sex as a top and got sucked off. Just months before craigslist got rid of the hookup/dating section, I spontaneously posted an ad that I was hosting a sex party. I didn’t expect too much traffic due to my location being too… Read more »
Went to one this past December in NYC. I’m 65 and only into younger guys. There are a bunch of them done weekly, $30 paid at the door, you had to strip right there down to just your shoes and of course no cellphones. I specifically chose the one called “Dads & Lads.” But there were about 4-1 ratio of dads to lads. Still, I hung out for about 90 mins, during which time while I was extremely cautious, 4 different ‘lads’ blew me and I made out with one. But it was quite the scene and I didn’t expect… Read more »
Been there, done that!!…they could be hot, one stop shopping for dick and ass!…initially felt insecure about walking around with just my underwear on since I just had an average slim body, but winded up having fun with guys of different body types (slim, muscular, or average like me)…wasn’t too many hang ups or attitude back in the days…however, vibe at the parties changed over the years; power tops and power bottoms, dudes that are just looking to watch or talk, like it’s a tea party…more peeps into smoking/drinking to get them started (not a smoker or drinker)…and of course,… Read more »
Yes I have. I still go to them. Been to the Bullet Bar in my town. They have nude nights. I have a very big ass so I don’t have to tell you how popular I am. I have had sex with quite a few guys there cause I make them cum really fast. I prefer sex clubs over the Internet because it’s less bullshit.
I prefer the 1-on-1 type of setup. Shows that I’m more interested in my partner than deciding “who’s the next sex object on my list of those in the room?”
I have been to so many sex parties, orgies, gang bangs, piss tubs, etc, that I couldn’t even count. However, the one element in the hundreds that I have attended over the years, THEY WERE NOT DRUG FUELED!! Drug Fueled parties are a major turn off for me, always have been, always will be! Our lives are tough enough, why fuck them up worse with using hard drugs that will lead to addiction and disaster!! Alcohol, poppers, 420 . . . all cool! Unpopular opinion sometimes, but I value life and the lives of my sex partners! I always tell… Read more »