Sexuality: Have You Ever Had Sex with a Woman?

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Adam4Adam blog readers who are gay, have you ever had sex with women? If so, how was it and how did you feel? Was it something you’ll try again? If not yet, do you think you can you have sex with women at all?

Sexual attraction and arousal are often assumed to be clear-cut, but human sexuality is complex. For many gay men, the idea of having sex with a woman seems unimaginable like for this one gay man online who commented, “Normally gay men their thing doesn’t get hard for women.” This sentiment resonates with many gay men who identify as exclusively attracted to men. But does this apply to all gay men?

Dr. Joe Kort, a Michigan-based sex therapist, offers a different perspective. He argues that some gay men do, in fact, engage in and even enjoy sex with women. According to him, “Some gay men are satisfied by women.” This statement challenges the common belief that gay men are universally incapable of physical arousal with women.

Dr. Kort further explains:

“So, this is completely false, ask any woman who’s been married to a gay man. They will tell you that during their marriage they had a lot of action, a lot of stuff going on and their thing did get hard. Um so people think well you know if your body responds in a certain way, you are this. If your body doesn’t respond that way, you’re not this. No, that’s not how it works. Your body can respond to things that go completely against your morals, your values, your attractions, and it’s normal. There’s nothing wrong with that and this is a misconception and sadly what happens when you make this misconception is then people think well you know he’s that way for me. He’s able to get his thing hard and everything’s okay in our relationship so he must not be gay. But that doesn’t mean a thing. So, you might be thinking how does it get hard because he’s attracted to her. She’s his person. He’s turned on by his experience with her. That’s the reality.”

This perspective suggests that sexual arousal can be influenced by factors beyond mere attraction, including emotional connection, intimacy, and psychological responses. It also raises questions about the fluidity of sexuality and how it manifests in different individuals.

But who is Dr. Joe Kort?

Dr. Kort is a recognized expert in sex therapy, specializing in male sexual fluidity, relationship counseling, and sexual identity concerns. His work focuses on understanding the complexities of attraction, orientation, and human sexuality.

What do you think, Adam4Adam blog readers? Do you agree with Dr. Kort’s statement? Have you ever had sex with a woman? If so, what was the experience like for you? Or do you, like the man who commented above, find it impossible to get turned on by women? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments section down below!