Sex: To Sit or Not to Sit? Gay Men Talk About Face Sitting

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Gay men don’t shy away from a good, juicy question, especially when it involves sex. So when a gay man online asked, “Tops, face sitting, yes or no?” the replies came pouring in like a wave of horny confessionals. Some men begged for it, some politely declined, and others wrote responses steamy enough to fog up the screen. Anyway, the original poster (OP) added:

Personally, while I love to sit on a top’s face, I’m a bit worried to do it as well. I’m worried that I’ll sit a bit too hard and like hurt the dude or something. Which is probably absolutely ridiculous and hilarious for some to read.

Before diving into the responses, let’s be clear about what face sitting actually is. Face sitting is a sexual position or act where one partner places their butt or genitals directly over the other person’s face, often as a form of domination, pleasure, or oral stimulation. Click here for more explanation.

With that out of the way, the responses from gay men were funny, enthusiastic, hesitant, and everything in between. One guy, for example, didn’t waste a second sharing his enthusiasm. He admitted, “Yes, obviously. I love ass.” His comment was basically the spokesperson statement for every top who sees face sitting as an open buffet.

Another described himself as a proud bottom, but a bottom with a mission. He said, “I’m a total bottom. But I love eating my partner’s ass, it seems to make him fuck me harder.” For him, face sitting isn’t just fun, it’s a strategy.

In addition, someone else chimed in with the same bottom energy: “I’m a bottom and I love it!” A simple love letter to the act itself.

Not everyone was fully on board, though. One gay man took a step back and admitted, “Hmm…for me, I prefer not.” Whether due to comfort, positioning, or personal preference, not all tops or bottoms find face sitting appealing.

For some guys, however, intimacy is all about control, connection, and what feels natural. A commenter revealed, “I prefer the bottom on his stomach. I don’t care for face sitting.”

But then came the full-throttle, zero-shame response that could serve as a rallying cry: “Absolutely. Sit right on my face so I can go deep and sloppy with my tongue.” Confidence? Check. Enthusiasm? Double check. No hesitation? Triple check.

And finally, the versatile king of the thread added a more balanced take: “I love being the receiver but also the giver.” For him, face sitting is about connection, pleasure, and switching roles when the moment calls for it.

In sex, part of the fun is the tease and foreplay. The buildup. The tension. The kind of slow-burn electricity that curls around your spine and whispers, “Don’t stop now.” That’s the sweet spot—right on the edge, craving the next sensation. So now we want to hear from you, Adam4Adam blog readers, whether you’re tops, bottom, or vers—where do you stand on face sitting? Love it? Hate it?  Is it a yes, a no, a sometimes, or a “depends on the guy” you’re with? Have you ever worried about accidentally hurting your partner like the original poster?  Share your experiences, tips, horror stories, curiosities, and thirstiest opinions in the comments section below—we want all the details.