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Why don’t some guys swallow? That’s the question one gay man recently posted online, and it sparked an honest, revealing conversation. The original poster (OP) asked:
When hooking up, why don’t some guys swallow?
In a couple recent BJs, I’ve encountered guys who don’t swallow. They’d rather get me up to the point and let me spew out. Not the end of the world, but curious to know why not just swallow. Is it a flavor thing? Do some guys just like to watch? What could the reasons be?
It’s a fair question—and one that many of us have likely wondered at some point. Whether you’re a seasoned oral enthusiast or just getting into the hookup game, this question touches on taste, intimacy, preference, and more importantly, health. We went looking for answers—and found some surprising, funny, and relatable responses from other gay men who’ve been there, done that… or decided not to. Below are some of the most common responses, along with a look at what might be going on.
Some guys are just honest about it: “Because I find both the texture and taste gross.” No sugarcoating here. Not everyone likes the salty, sticky, sometimes bitter flavor of semen. Texture and taste can be major turn-offs—and for many, that’s enough reason to avoid swallowing altogether.
Others take a more situational approach like this gay man who responded, “Letting a guy cum in my mouth really depends on my mood—and how irresistible he is.” Whether it’s an emotional vibe, a heightened sense of intimacy, or just plain animal magnetism, sometimes chemistry overcomes hesitation.
Some responses brought up the physical impact cum can have. One man shared, “Some people get ‘allergies’ to cum. Sometimes I feel a bit off in the stomach myself after swallowing.” While true semen allergies are rare, it’s not unheard of to have mild stomach discomfort afterward. He added, “I can understand guys that don’t like it. But I still hate spitters… If I know he is a spitter and like the guy, I’ll ask him to snowball me. Waste not, want not.”
Then there’s the aversion rooted in overall food or sensory preferences. One man connected his dislike of semen to other tastes and textures in daily life: “I honestly don’t like cum at all. It’s not a fetish for me… I think my preference for fewer sauces and crispy, well-done foods is somehow related.”
Of course, STI concerns also factor in. One person said simply, “Might be STI/STD concerns?” While the risk is relatively low, oral transmission is possible, especially if there are cuts in the mouth or gum issues. Some guys choose to play it safe.
Then there’s the group that just thinks watching cum fly is hotter. “Personally, watching cum shoot out and all over your body/face is so much hotter,” one gay man explained. For casual hookups, it’s a visual kink—and swallowing feels more intimate, something they save for partners or boyfriends.
And some, despite loving cum, just can’t bring themselves to swallow. “I love cum. I love to see it spraying and splattering. I don’t like the taste of it, so I will perform right up to the point of swallowing and spit it out.”
Clearly, there’s no one-size-fits-all answer.
What about you, Adam4Adam blog readers? Have you noticed a trend with your partners? Do you enjoy swallowing cum—or avoid it? Is it due to taste, intimacy, health, or something else entirely? Share your thoughts, preferences, and experiences in the comments section down below. And as always—whatever your style, stay safe and informed. Oral sex may feel low-risk, but regular testing and honest communication remain key to your sexual health.
Honestly, I have never swallowed cum nor ever taste it. I like watching it sprew out, I like to touch it, use it for lube sometime but never found the courage to swallow it. I don’t like the smell of it, and the fear of the unknown freaks me out meaning I don’t know if the person I’m with is disease- free. Non-apologetically speaking.
I think I’m a mix of everything in this article. When I’m really turned on I want him to finish in my mouth but the moment I cum, I’m not so into it. I thought about forcing myself to swallow after I came just to get it to be normal. Ty first time I tried it was when I was masterbating. I was in a long porn watching session and as I was cumming on my hand and just put it in my mouth. I didn’t know what to expect with the flavor or anything and for me, didn’t taste… Read more »
love the diary excerpt!
Why bother to evoke the Puritan Work Ethic to suck a dick and not to enjoy your reward? you suck dick to get the cream!
No. That’s why you suck dick.
touché!
you prefer “Diary Cream”?
“Dairy Queen”?
Luv sucking dick til completion…but not a fan of swallowing. Remember swallowing for the first time at a sex party…guy held my head down on his shaft as he busted in my mouth and didn’t let me up for air…had no choice but to swallow most of it…was surprisingly sweet…also had opposite experience of meeting a regular at a glory hole whose cum tasted like it came from a sewer…had to leave him alone. Plus have sensitive stomach, so will leave the swallowing to the experts.
Just not into it.
yo, Lamar, the cream is the white supremacy and the dik is black power
My favorite thing to do is swallow a guy’s load, but it has to be the right guy. I can’t explain it, but it has to be the right vibe with the guy. I especially like to clean his cock with my mouth after he ejaculates in my mouth, because his cock is most vulnerable and sensitive, and I love being in control of it when it’s in that state.
I started sucking at a young age thru a gloryhole in a park bathroom … the experience changed my life … I didn’t know what to expect and when he came in my mouth I liked the taste and could hear the sound of him moaning with pleasure… I always have swallowed unless they want to cum somewhere else…. I’m basically a cumdump for black and brown men to use as they want
If it’s not in my ass I way prefer it all over my face or body. I love having multiple guys come on top of me. The one time I really do enjoy swallowing cum is if I’m being spit roasted. There’s something about a guy coming in your mouth and another guy coming in your ass almost simultaneously. That is incredibly hot. But by and large I prefer guys coming on top of me or inside me
the OP must be a ‘total top’ they’re usually clueless
HOW do you arrive at their position (if there even IS 1) when anal activity was NEVER mentioned?
I’m no newbie to most forms of gay sex. Over the years, I’ve given plenty of rewarding BJs – all ‘dry ones’ though. I had tasted my own on many occasions and to me, cum tastes like a combo of eggwhites and amonia. Never was my thing. On top of it, I’ve always feared STDs via oral sex. But all the while, I had ejaculated in some guys’ mouths (and they swallowed) and have always found the act of feeding cum orally to be super hot. So in 2022, I finally got up the nerve to try it. The guy… Read more »
“… he had gotten so revved up that he couldn’t ejaculate…” This is a point that’s usually not discussed. Some guys can “edge” themselves or be edged for long periods and finally orgasm when they wish. But some other guys if they are brought close to orgasm several times, find that even with vigorous stimulation ultimately they can’t orgasm. Yes, “that ship has sailed.” These guys need to know there’s nothing wrong with them. It’s just how they’re wired. When this happens, the sexual event was not a failure on their or their partner’s parts. Personally, as I’m repeatedly stimulated by… Read more »
We’re taking this convo in a somewhat different direction but one thing I’ve found for years is, if I wait too long and enjoy too much stimulation from kissing/cuddling, oral, rimming, etc., I can’t get hard enough to give a bottom a good pounding. That’s frustrating. As for the guy I mentioned, fortunately, he really enjoyed all we did and wasn’t disappointed despite not coming.
The great thing about sex is that great sex isn’t a simple guaranteed deal from embracing to orgasm.
God! If it was guaranteed to be the great deal every time it’d soon be “game over. On to the next guy!” (Ok, maybe after the 10th time with a guy.)
If any decent guy enjoyed what you two did … he’d be saying “we need to meet again.”
Love to swallow!! Facials are second favorite
“Why don’t some guys swallow?” Sounds like there’s a rule that’s being broken. Some guys swallow because they enjoy doing so or enjoy bringing pleasure to their partner. Some don’t because they find it revolting or prefer to see cum fly. Some guys suck because they enjoy doing so or enjoy bringing pleasure to their partner. Some don’t because they find it revolting or submissive. Some guys don’t like to be sucked because they don’t enjoy it or it doesn’t get them to orgasm. Some guys only top or bottom because they enjoy doing so or enjoy bringing pleasure to… Read more »
no need for a dissertation on the subject?
For you and “Twitter” folks who find more than 140 characters at a time just too much to handle, here you go:
“Guys who don’t swallow don’t like it. Like all sex acts. Some do. Some don’t.”
If any post is too long for anyone, they’re fee to move along at any time, btw.
Funny, you sound just like John, btw also.
You beat whatever point you make as thoroughly as you beat your meat! less rhetoric more wisdom!
Guys beat their meat. Thank God He put our parts in proximity to do so!
If that is a difficulty for you, please (oh please!!) seek professional help!
I’ve posted it before:
“Releasing” anywhere above the neck makes me nauseous.
biggest turnoff is smokers, whose cum tastes nasty from the nicotine
Yes, I was wondering when someone would mention this. I don’t even entertain smokers.
Some report a heavily musky taste from guys who heavily ingest vegetables.
For me? If I’ve made the decision to play with a guy, he’s has many other desirable traits so semen taste would not be an issue. (Smoking is a deal breaker. Wouldn’t hit the guy up or agree to meet if he hit me up.) Guys burp, fart, can smell somewhat sweaty, and let’s not forget that even a douched hole can have a fragrance … really, semen taste?
Do you work for the food channel? we are what we eat and drink?
garlic onions broccoli cabbage leafy greens asparagus meat and dairy products
Sites on the Internet say they, and more, affect semen.” This is not the latest Internet news!” Been around for years.
Seems “You are what you ingest and could procreate.”
Some want the reward of sucking dick to completed, others dont your choice
I will swallow if told to. But I’d rather be told where to lick the shooter with his load. Makes such a lovely sticky mess on both of us. Most guys want me to lick their hole.
Because it tastes gross