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We’ve all heard the stereotype: hung guys are always tops. But if you’ve spent any time in the gay scene, you know that’s not always the case, such is the observation of this gay man on Reddit’s r/askgaybros who sparked a lively—and juicy—debate with this curious (and very relatable) question: “Why are so many hung guys bottoms? Not that I’m complaining because it’s hot AF. I just find it amusing because they don’t usually send dick pics but when you meet in person they surprise you with a third leg.”

He added, “Naturally not all but majority of bottoms I hook up with are hung or above average. Also, I find that a lot of tall and muscular guys are usually bottoms.”

His observation isn’t new, but it definitely hits home. For many gay men, the idea that someone with a huge dick would prefer to bottom feels like a delicious plot twist. It subverts expectations—and often makes things even hotter. And when you add tall, gym-built guys to the equation? Let’s just say we understand the fantasy.

Anyway, the responses from fellow gay men poured in, offering both firsthand experience and thoughtful speculation. One guy admitted, “Most guys I’ve topped have been bigger than me.” Another echoed the sentiment: “Bottoms usually have the nicest dick. I’m disappointed it’s treated like a museum object: you can see but you can’t touch.”

Others pointed out practical challenges: “From what I’ve been told by a few… people can’t take them for a long time or in general. I say practice makes perfect. I’m above average and 75% of bottoms can’t take me for more than a minute or two.”

Meanwhile, a fellow Redditor cheekily replied: “Either you are weeeeelll above average or you’re not hooking up with the right bottoms.”

There’s also a social angle to this trend. A well-endowed guy might feel reduced to his dick if he tops—everyone wants a piece of him, but no one sees the man beyond the member. “Topping when hung is a lot,” another respondent explained. “Sometimes guys will literally only be into you for your dick which, I personally don’t like.”

Let’s not forget the kink appeal. One guy gushed: “Love me a hung bottom, my boyfriend is significantly bigger than me and he’s the bottom in our relationship. It’s so hot when he’s riding me and I see that big ole stick swinging around.”

Another commenter added a visual we can’t get out of our heads: “Had a reg guy with a 9″ uncut thick tool, omigod he was hot. I would eat his ass until he came. I fucked him too but he liked oral better. He was beautiful.”

As a funny contrast, someone joked about the other side of the spectrum: “Hung tops are the most pampered group of people in any sex/relationship dynamic. They get treated even better than heterosexual women.”

Having said all that, what about you, Adam4Adam readers, have you ever noticed the same trend—do many of the hung guys you hook up with prefer to bottom? If you’re a hung bottom yourself, what’s your reason? Why do you love bottoming instead of topping? Is there a power dynamic shift that makes this even sexier for you? Drop your comments below—we want all the details.

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