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If so, what was it like? Was it for you? Would you go into one again?
We are asking because entering unfamiliar territory is rarely seamless—especially when it is a gay orgy. Recently, a 32-year‑old gay man shared a vulnerable first‑time experience, he said: “Went to my first gay orgy last night without knowing anyone else there.” Further, he recounted:
“It was fit/in shape guys only, ages 18‑40. It started as an underwear party with drinking games. I had fun with that part since I got to do a shot from a stranger’s lap successfully without spilling anything.” That playful vibe kept things light, with about 15 guys in attendance. But once the upstairs sex portion began, he realized he “didn’t really vibe with anyone.” So instead of forcing participation, he quietly watched for about 20 minutes before choosing to leave sober and self‑aware.
The next morning he thanked the host, clarified that he might return someday—but only when the vibes felt right. “It’s not that I wasn’t turned on, I was, I just felt something in my gut telling me that tonight wasn’t the night for me.” A host confirmed it was an unusual crowd and that everyone had fun, but respected his decision.
Anyway, some commenters reminded the original poster (OP) that not every guy is cut out for jumping into gay orgies cold. “Some guys can’t just ‘jump in’. You need attention, warming up, feeling safe, etc.”
Others emphasized gut feeling and intuition. One wrote, “Sex is all about vibing—you didn’t, nothing wrong with that.” While another guy chimed in: “Trust those gut instincts. Don’t question it. Just trust.” And some shared that even with careful planning, sometimes the energy is off. A commenter admitted, “I have a foursome planned… but be honest… I don’t wanna.” You don’t owe anyone your body—no matter what you agreed to yesterday. This means you can choose to back out. You’re allowed. Also, remember that lube, condoms, and communication aren’t just for pleasure—they’re part of safer play. Especially in group settings, STI risk multiplies fast.
Having said all that—what about you—Adam4Adam blog readers, have you ever attended a gay orgy? How was your first experience, would you say it was thrilling, awkward, liberating, or a mix of everything? Did you follow through or bail early? What lessons did you take away from your experience?
Maybe you’ve developed go‑to strategies: vetting group settings in advance, chatting privately before diving in, or choosing venues with trusted hosts. What advice would you offer someone curious but nervous?
How about the vibe factor—how do you know it’s right or wrong for you? Would you ever return after not clicking the first time?
Adam4Adam blog readers— got a story to tell? Whether you joined the orgy or chose not to, your experience matters. Share how you prepared, what you learned, or what you’d do differently next time. Someone out there could really use your insight. Comment below!
“Orgy” … “oh, how how cute!. How fun! How Gay!” Actually, silly, so “no thanks”. Go to a group party as a stranger on your own? No. Never. Went to several group parties hosted by two separate guys pre-COVID. The hosts vetted everyone who attended. No strangers. Events were by invitation only. Either the host knew long-timers who were invited or a long-time attendee “nominated” a new attendee who the host would invite once the new person passed the checks. The long-time attendees’ reputation being on the line, of course. No weirdos. No remaining clothed. No guys who just wanted… Read more »
I’ve been to several. The one that sticks out most is this ongoing thing in NYC where you drop $30 at the door, strip and just roam around looking for someone to fuck. I was verrrry cautious and only let a few guys suck me, nothing further. And there was way too much BB fucking going on for my comfort level. On the other hand, I’ve done a number of groups of 3 to 7 guys in the past and had a better chance to vet those guys out beforehand and felt safer.
Orgy or Group Sex?
Perhaps, better yet, a “Free-For-All”?
Did a hot 22 man orgy in the basement of an unoccupied house. the host was a realtor and had this place on the market to rent. it was kinda intimadating at first. we all arrived in clumps and went down to the basement, they had a small room to undress and keep our clothes. then the main area was almost pitch black. could not see anything at first. had to feel around, which helped find hard cocks. first one i grabbed was nice sized feeling so i dropped to my knees and sucked it. suddenly had 2 more cocks… Read more »
Damn that must have been HOT
No. I’m a 1-on-1 type of guy.
Shocking you would even bring this up. This is how AIDS became an epidemic. Orgies are totally unsafe. And not natural at all. The only possible group activity could be masturbation and frottage/humping. Eroding normal boundaries is unhealthy.
And we stanched the epidemic with good research, medication, and PrEP/DoxyPEP. You can still be a fool and get HIV, but it gets tougher and tougher to do. It’s OK to be you, but others are not like you. Today, we’re winning the battle and having fun, too.
Bullshit. I see so many young men who are already HIV-positive, and older men who had no excuse, as everyone knew how to avoid it well before 1990. It is not tough to get it at all, just bottom for anyone with no condoms, and sooner or later, you’ll have it, probably sooner. As for “winning the battle,” since behavior has reverted back to hedonism, it has been lost, and at the expense of other community members who have chronic lifelong illnesses with NO support, no buddies, no organizations, no research funding, no medications, no treatments. But, no, the irresponsible,… Read more »
That’s provably not true. Not up on your stats, are you? Hanging on to false memes is what kills. Prevention, great meds, and wisdom rule the day. Yes, there are active people spreading HIV– and not like before. People aren’t dying in wards. People with HIV are almost always succeeding in undetectable trajectories, healthy well into old age. There are fantastic programs throughout the US, administered for free to those who test poz.But I’m not going to burst your privileged, fear-ridden bubble. Find out for yourself. Virtue signalling isn’t just for the 1%, it’s also for those who aren’t watching… Read more »
I’ve actually been to 2. Both experiences were “all of the above”. Both were in private homes with a large group of invited guests. Almost immediately, one young guy led me to a bedroom where we kissed, but I wasn’t ready to take it further. I was sorry that I lost track of him after that. Another guy-older than me was getting pretty aggressive and I had to shut that down. After that, I got into the vibe with other guys & ended up having a great time, playing as a group.
I started an orgy at the Midtowne spa once. I’m a big guy with a thick ass. I walked down an hall thru a group of guys while dropping my towel. I walked into a lounge and a group of black guys followed me into the room. Needless to say, I got fucked by six guys, it was amazing!
Never been to a gay orgy but would like to see what it’s like. Maybe watch. If I knew the guys maybe join in. Really want to see how it is though. I’ve fantasized about threesomes and foursomes, but would be interested with the right guys. Always had that fantasy about a couple of guys taking turns with me which would be hot. Maybe someday a gay couple will reach out and see what happens. I just think I’m scared of catching something but would feel more comfortable if everyone had a recent test. Oh, well. A guy can always… Read more »
Per my screen name here, I’ve done a number of these, but there’s a trick to it if you’re as paranoid as you sound like you are – and I am too: Just take it all in. Watch the others in action. Maybe hold a cock, kiss a guy or let a guy suck you, but don’t do more than that. It’s almost like being in a real-life porno and will give you a very good idea of what it’s like without doing anything unsafe.
Been to one with seven guys what a great time but that was a while ago tried to get one together but it is hard to find guys that are serious in meeting
Like many guys, it just kind of happened when I was cruising. 5 guys in the handicapped stall for about a half hour. Basement of the old library when I was in college. Building was in transition. Almost empty after lunch.
As for sex parties falling off since Covid? Must not have been on Sniffies yet. Groups & pump & dumps at no tell motels have never been more popular.
This is one of these things were I’ll watch but not participate in myself…
I’ve been in plenty…from college til about 3 weeks ago when I used to go to a weekly fukfest on the Southside of Chicago; the fukfest has been canceled til further notice due to a plumbing issue at the host’s residence. So, I just hookup with guys on Grndr, Taimi, Scruff and Archer. Sad to say, but, A4A, being a member for 20 years, recently has a plethora of prostitutes, liars,, thieves and meth heads. I’ve reported 3 to A4A this past week, yet, A4A still lets them stay as members. Smdh
What is difference between group sex and an orgy? Strange men, even with condoms, is a risk not to be taken. HPVs and HSVs are a thing, along with the smaller chance of limited bacterial exposures. After all, a spirochete can burrow itself into broken skin or membranes. Those we know, combined with condoms are a different story. I go with who I know, and avoid anyone with addictions or that make poor life choices. That being said, threesomes and even foursomes can be a blast, though I prefer scenes that limit the top to bottom ratio. Much easier to… Read more »
Yes,I have,my first enjoyment of it was a adult theater.I was a little nerves but more than willing to join,lol!Love the free for all action,men of all shapes,sizes,color complexions that were sex hungry,I truly appreciate orgies,I have done a many of 3’s over the years!I am a top that loves bottom men,especially married men,they are the best in gay sex!
boy where can i find you need more like you
That’s good to know, because married bottoms get a bad rap, we are not very popular on this site”
i agree with that we are for sure not very popular
So far I have not had the chance to play in a gay orgy it is actually a fantasy of mine….the most I’ve done so far were a few 4somes…the last 4some was amazing I was the bottom and was passed around by 3 well hung tops…I would love to join an orgy with at least 5-6 other top/vers guys and would love to have it all recorded too….hopefully my fantasy comes true soon
Yeah, well, that’s what it turned into, so I left, no judgements, just not for me.
If 8 people is enough to be considered an orgy then yes. It wasn’t that great, most guys paired off or watched others. There was only one person there that interested me and we had a good time while others watched us.
Been to a few. The larger ones I was nervous and didn’t do all that much. I went to a smaller one hosted at someone’s house, 5 of us in total, and the other 4 took turns fucking me, and one came balls deep in my hungry hole.
I love group sex. All that cock and ass in front of you. It rare these days bur in the 60’s all the time and very common. Fucking hot
Yeah – do it if it feels comfortable and right and JUST WATCH if you’re not interested in any of the guys and dicks that are there 🙂
If you just sit around and watch, you will be sent home.
Gay orgy? Is there any other kind?
There are paintings, frescos and mosaics of Greek and Roman plus-sized men and women in togas sprawled out with goblets of wine in their hands and with pitchers thereof abundant displayed.