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It’s Pride Month. Now is as good a time as any to ask: Do you love being gay? Not just, you know, during the “easy moments,” but in the complex, everyday ways your identity shapes how you move through the world. As we all know, Pride is about more than parades and rainbows—it’s about honoring the strength it takes to love ourselves in a world that hasn’t always made that easy. So, take a moment to reflect: what does being gay mean to you, and how do you celebrate it, not just this Pride month—but every day?
Anyway, we’re bringing this up because a gay man on Reddit posed a passionate, albeit hilarious question: “I love being gay. Men are the best creatures on earth, the testosterone high I get when I walk in the gym or class. Different types of men, all different, all perfect, kinda like everyone in this sub. I WANT TO TRY THEM ALL. I WANT TO TRY YOU ALL. I wanna be inside of everyone and everyone inside of me. I love guys, no homo though.”
His enthusiasm is infectious, but it raises an interesting discussion: Do you love being gay? Is it a blessing, a curse, or just another part of your colorful life?
For many, being gay is a source of joy like this one guy who responded, “When my dick is balls deep in a cute twink’s ass, that’s when I love being gay.” It’s safe to say that some people embrace their sexuality wholeheartedly!
Another comment took a broader view: “I wouldn’t wish heterosexuality on my worst enemy. Being gay is the best.” This response speaks to the unique culture, community, and experiences that come with being gay—things many wouldn’t trade for the world.
Not everyone shared the same sentiment, though. While most responses were positive, one man admitted, “I hate being gay, lucky you.” It’s a reminder that for some, personal struggles, societal pressures, or past experiences can make being gay more complicated.
Then there are those who just enjoy the humor of it all. One commenter simply said, “Gay is great, we love gay.” Another playfully suggested, “Replace gay with slut and we’re good.” Clearly, some people fully embrace the fun side of being part of the LGBTQ+ community!
Of course, not everyone identifies the same way. One bisexual person chimed in, asking, “Does being bi count?” to which someone humorously replied, “As long as you like testosterone.” While the original post celebrated men with over-the-top energy, it’s good to acknowledge that attraction exists in many forms.
So, what about you, Adam4Adam blog readers? Do you love being gay? Is it something you embrace with pride, or do you struggle with it at times? What’s the best part about being gay, and what’s the most challenging? Share your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!
Heterosexuality = Homosexuality Orientation = Orientation
Media chooses which are acceptable and which are unacceptable.
In what is usually a sea of incomprehensibility, this post – at merely four words – is a new low and literally makes no sense whatsoever. I don’t know whether to congratulate you or cry for our educational system.
You should love yourself, regardless of your sexuality. Being Gay makes you no more special than being Straight or any of the LGTBQ+ entities … or being of a certain race or a certain ethnicity or religion or political affiliation or gender. “The Community” (and A4A) continue to promote the idea that being Gay is more than any and everything else. That’s not “equality.” That’s superiority. And it’s part of the many reasons why June and Pride month are ignored by society in general. It’s also a part of why the White House has it’s current occupant. Just be equal.… Read more »
We’re all born who we are. While we cannot change the overall person, we can decide to be fancy free/irresponsible/selfish OR sensible/hard work/caring individuals. Not a magic or easy project. It’s always a work in progress. What’s not to love about that?
I don’t “love” being gay, nor am I “proud” of being gay. It just is. I think it has just brought extra hardship to my life. I’m the type of person who doesn’t like to stand out in a crowd. I just wanted to go with the flow. We were all supposed to have the wife, 2.5 kids, dog, all in our perfect house with the white picket fence. I would have been ok with that. But when I realized I was “different”, that I was gay, back in my teens, I was devastated. I cursed the heavens for making… Read more »
Definitively explain what “gay” means first. I’ll say this, I do love dicks, I have loved some men, and I’m just fine with being the way I am whether it fits some subjective nebulous definition or not.
HELLA YES ~~ I LOVE it and would not TRADE places with a SINGLE STR8 person that I know!!! I have NO wishes to be a pussy whipped hubby and have a nagging demanding witch for a WIFE. I am TOTALLY proud that I’m a GOLD STAR GAY!!!! LOVING every SECOND of my FREEDOM and independence and NOT ASHAMED at all!! I haven’t cared what the BIBLE THUMPERS or HOMOPHOBES thought about me in DECADES!!!!!! 🙂
Being gay with HIV sucks the most— you’ll think others would be more sympathetic to someone as if this happened to them they would want the same. Yet, others tend to overlook you. So yes I hate being gay—
Do you have HIV because you “are gay”? Or do you have HIV because of choices you made?
It’s not a matter of being gay caused me to have HIV. It’s the fact that being gay is an added risk factor for anyone in the community to contract HIV. that being said , you’d think the community would be more accepting especially in current times where hiv is not a death sentence. So being gay is not great, there is no true community.
Been noticing more and more guys “HIV+” or “Undetectable” in their profiles. This will, of course, drive some guys away, but wondering why that commonality hasn’t given them all an open field to plan on.
What a silly question. I am what I am; so are all who read this. I was born who I am; I can’t and don’t want to change my gender, or my orientation. I know there are those that do, and I respect that they may want change. I’m here, I’m queer, and I can spell potato.
quite revelatory! you are at peace with self. It is society who decides who shall be peaceful or not? Once you understand this, you can makes peace with yourself, as you did, and live in peace…peacefully.
There is no need to uplift if you are grounded. Uplifting helps others; many need this. Life is tough, but with help from friends…. it’s good.
I am what I am I am my own special creation. So come take a look, Give me the hook or the ovation. It’s my world that I want to take a little pride in, My world, and it’s not a place I have to hide in. Life’s not worth a damn, ‘Til you can say, “Hey world, I am what I am.” I am what I am, I don’t want praise, I don’t want pity. I bang my own drum, Some think it’s noise, I think it’s pretty. And so what, if I love each feather and each spangle,… Read more »
I am what I am. From the outside I appear to be a masculine male. But inside I am attracted to masculine men. I was born this way and nothing will change that. So, for me this whole question is irrelevant.
I’m bi, not gay, and I must say that the gay portion of my being is not pleased anymore about that which makes me desire the comforting companionship of a man with me…besides sex. None of the guys I’ve chatted with on a4a or various other gay/hetero sites want a lasting relationship in its truest form. Just sex on a4a is what most guys on a4a is pursuing. Friends and those seeking a relationship on gay sites are found 9n Gilligan’s Island or Fantasy Island. As I see it nowadays, being gay is a combative norm–always having to prove your… Read more »
I wouldn’t say that I am proud of the way that I am bi/gay, Especially being married to a woman, I don’t know if I was really born this way, or was I turn out at a young age, I’m certainly not proud of the fact that I like to be put in panties be other men, At a young age I was looked after by a friend of the family, he would dress me in panties and have his way with me, after a while I started looking forward to being with him, it made me feel good to… Read more »
I love to love men. Otherwise, it sucks in a bad way.
Look at being gay; from your very own perspective (deprogram, the negative input of the ‘fictional’ moral majority), see ‘if’ you can measure it against being hetero, as there are pros and cons of both orientations.
And that has always had to do with societal, governmental laws/religions, familial-ethnic traditions.
“Do I love being gay?” In this country, time and place, and additionally, I think it has its nuances; depending on one’s ethnicity as well, so, honestly, I’m learned of it, anyway. It’s just another kind of human experience, anyway.
Of course I do. I love and appreciate myself as an individual. Gay doesn’t define me but is a part of the entire person that I am. I just happen to love men and be great friends with women. My very best lifelong friend is a woman who I have known for several decades now.
I do love being gay but I regret getting tiddies. It definitely made me more popular for a short time but I face discrimination in the gay lifestyle. When I read these people saying they are not happy being gay it is sad. Most of these people would be sad straight people as well. It is their personality and choices in life.
No it’s pretty empty. Hot fun but mostly loneliness
Absolutely. I love being gay and Black.
dumb question
I don’t mind being bi/gay/closeted, I just mind that I am not out.