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Anal sex: some gay men love it, some hate it, but few talk about it quite like tops do. Recently, a gay man took to an online forum with a bold question: “Top gays why do you like anal sex so much? Describe the feeling to me in detail, please.”
So, why do tops love it so much? What really keeps them coming back for more? As it turns out, it’s not just about physical sensation, but also about intimacy, bonding, and connection.
One man explained beautifully that, “When I am inside a man, I like to feel the warmth and feel I am part of him. Really turns me on. Now if I am inside him and hurting him, I go soft and can’t get a boner.” For him and many other tops, it’s not simply about the thrusting — it’s about that deep sense of closeness, of literally being “inside” someone in a way that feels profoundly unifying.
Another top said he loves the mix of sensations and sounds: “Tight, and their moan, bottom moans are the cutest. Weirdly enough, the closeness, male bonding to the max.” It’s an intimate experience that goes beyond just physical pleasure — it’s about the little details: the squeeze, the warmth, the shared noises that can’t really be faked.
Of course, for many tops, the physical thrill is front and center. As one gay man described it: “It feels good to pump my load inside someone. The warmth I feel when I put it in and the way I get squeezed when I’m topping someone makes me feel ecstatic.” It’s the combination of tightness, warmth, and release that drives the pleasure home.
But not every top is wild about anal, which might surprise some. One honest commenter said, “Personally I’m a top but I heavily prefer oral to anal. I can’t really stay hard during anal, and I don’t have as much sensation during anal as I do for oral.” For some guys, it’s just not as physically stimulating as other forms of sex, and that’s perfectly valid too.
Then there are tops who say they genuinely need the act to reach climax. One man shared: “I genuinely cannot cum unless I fuck. Blowjobs are nice but I can’t cum from them.” For him, anal is not optional — it’s the only way to hit that final release.
So, is it the tightness, the warmth, the moans, or the primal intimacy that keeps tops coming back? Maybe it’s all of the above. For many, topping is not just a position — it’s a deeply satisfying act that makes them feel more masculine, more alive, and more connected with their partner.
What about you, Adam4Adam blog readers? If you’re a top, do these answers match your experience? If you’re a bottom, do you love knowing what goes on in a top’s mind when he’s inside you? Drop a comment and share your thoughts and stories in the comments section below — what makes anal sex worth it for you, or not?
Lastly, we’d also love to hear from you too — what topics do you want us to explore next here on the Adam4Adam blog? Is there a question, confession, or experience you think our community should talk about? Post your ideas in the comments or feel free to email us at [email protected] or at [email protected] — your stories and curiosity keep this space real, raw, and always worth reading.
I have probably topped a guy maybe 3-4 times in my whole lifetime, and the best thing is the tight, warm feeling when you are inside him. That feeling is not replicated any other way. I wish it could be replicated, because I normally do not have anal sex. Those 3-4 times was when I was in my 20s and exploring.
Feels wonderful, what’s not to understand, I LOVE to hump, period, though.
I love topping with a bottom that really enjoys a big cock sliding in and out of him. It’s a very intimate, erotic experience hearing him express how much I am making him feel good. If I can make him cum just from the fuck, I’m a very happy camper!
My fantasy is to cum handsfree from getting fuckdd
I’m here to tell you, it’s a wonderful feeling to cum while getting fucked, it’s very intense, to cum with your ass fulla dick handsfree, I often read about bottoms that have never came while getting fucked without touching their dick, Hell it’s hard for me not to cum, it was a time when I would be embarrassed because I came so fast and easily while getting fucked, I use to hate it because once I came I would want to stop because I was done, when what I really wanted was a long deep fuckin, and tops would get… Read more »
that is what makes being a bottom so great about topping. Nothing better than being topped by a talented top. slide it in, slide it out, slide it in Balls Deep. Heaven.
I truly appreciate the ass of another man,i have loved on a many of them thru the years,Blk,wht Asians,Natives,Latinos (especially mexicans,i have pure respect for them brown bottoms),lol!!To me topping is one of life rewards,laying on another man’s back,kissing,biting on it,dick hard and ready to feel the heat when I put my dick between his chick’s!Heart racing,blood pumping,saying all kind of things,when sliding up and down in it!P.S.,I eat ass too!
The look on the bottoms face when my thick fat cock penetrates him balls deep and he wants more. The moans and begging from the bottom. Fucking the load out of him and watching his eyes when I explode inside of him. Not just a release but an amazing emotional experience for both men!
I love the look when the top goes deep and fills me with his cum and feeling his pulsing cock
As it should be, Nothing better.
Getting paid
workin’ that snake for the color green?
Got offers to get paid when I was younger… never thought it was flattering until now. Haha.
There is just so much to enjoy about being a top. I have come to find out I am 1000% a top. Not only because I am bi, but because I’ve tried bottoming and never enjoyed it. Just not for me. I also have to say I prefer sex with men. The way a male bottom just loves and appreciates a cock is like nothing else in the world. A good cock loving male bottom gets me to a level of passion that no woman ever could. It’s just about the pure animalistic lust of someone wanting my cock and… Read more »
I only top because my partner wants it… It gives me no pleasure. He tells me it has that intimacy and connection, but it’s not there for me. It’s no different than fucking a women, I was married and had many great times fucking, but not my be all end all, I have a different connection with a man and want the great time of exploring all of the parts of a man, I know I will get beat up for this , but if I wanted to be an anal top , I would still be with a women… Read more »
Man, there are ways to make the fuck more enjoyable to you and him. Jo beyond just pumping his ass. First bareback is mandatory, next, use your head to feel out those folds, rippled, etc??? On his ass, some way in there and focus some forceful thrusts on those areas, then move to another area , but also rede his ass with full body weight driving against his prostate. There are more but mix it up to get him begging for more.
See, a guy like you sounds like just the type I love to top.
You can’t be a good bottom without enjoying it. Nothing better than bottoming for a good top. A good top will make a bottom an insatiable bottom, craving more dick. And size does matter, Never been dissatisfied by a big dick top. Never had a painful fuck from a Big dick, but have had so many bad experience and painful experiences with little dicks, I have a 6 inch minimum with 7-10 inches being the best. It’s BS in “It’s not the size it’s how they use it”. Little dick men seem to lack the talent and the confidence to… Read more »
I fucked women and men. So to me pussy and ass both feels amazing. Only difference is I enjoy kissing men more. I enjoy oral sex, and nipple play with dudes more. That’s why I only have sex with dudes now. What’s so great about topping guys to me is the masculinity of it all. I especially like having sex with my best friend. We be naked in bed cuddled up laughing, talking about sports, sometimes while watching football. We be laughing and crackin jokes. Once we start kissing, oral, rimming, nipple-play, all the smiling and talking stops and things… Read more »
A talented tops brings out those sweet sounds from a bottom. I’m talking real sounds not the BS you hear in porn.
Longtime bi-married. Significant differences between the feeling of my cock implanted in guys’ asses and my wife’s vagina. Aside from the ass being so much tighter, effectively acting like a vacuum cleaner drawing out my cum, there’s the overall feeling of those two big pillows vs. a little female opening, doing it doggy and humping like animals, and the numerous more positions with guys than women too.
Nobody talks about anal sex more than a pushy bottom. They also like to send 453 pics of their asshole. Some guys never have anal sex. Some guys carry a dildo in their backpack.
What I like about anal sex is not fucking a pushy bottom.
Pushy bottoms are never becoming or deserve to get cum.
Being able to pump and get ridden and then shoot all inside or on a bttms face or ass feels good! I have a big one so it’s better for me to use it!
It might the adrenaline rush I get from being so powerful. Looking back on my first time I got hooked. I fucked my high school teacher. He had a big round ass. I made sure he saw those bulges, at times. He eventually invited me to his place. Being a kid and making a man submit to me like he did, I was drunk on all that power. Even years later, when I make a man moan and wince while drilling his big ass, I feel like the king.
I’m mostly a top by default, which is fine with me. To me bottoming all the time seems overrated. Never feels as good to me as it does being a top. Being a top, I like the warmth of the hole and the friction against my shaft when sliding in and out when doing long strokes. As a top I’ve been with all ages of men, up into their early 80s, the oldest being 82yo, all body types, different races and nationalities. As a top it’s all about chemistry for me, not looks or age. But, I can be just… Read more »
This is very interesting, I wonders what tops be thinking when they’re fuckin a bottom, I’ve never topped a guy, I’ve never had a desire to top a guy,, I’ve fucked plenty women in the ass and I love it, most of the time I fuck them the way I like to be fucked, when I’m fuckin them in the ass I kiss their back, neck, sometimes I give them a light smack on the ass cheek , and I talk to them while I’m fucking them, I like tell them how good their ass is to me, I it’s… Read more »
My wiring must’ve gotten attached to the wrong orifices. I’m definitely a top, but I feel about swallowing a cock and a load the way bottoms love a cock in their ass!
I myself really enjoys sucking a man’s dick, I like the idea of knowing I’m making anutha man feel like a man, and knowing I’m going to get his load at some point which is my reward from him, and swallowing it is my way of letting him know I appreciate him for letting me suck his dick
Well i top and bottom and they both have their benefi5s.
When i fuck a guy there is that wonderful sensation of feeling his hole give in as he accepts my cock. Then when i start humping and jackhammering his ass, as he begs me to fill him up , to spary my seed in him.
When I bottom i love looking him deep in his eyes as he positions his cock to enter me. Fo4cing his cock in my ass drives me crazy and the deeper he goes he reaches my mosti ti.ate areas.
Nothing.
I wholeheartedly agree with the commenter who states anal penetrating is the only way he can cum. Oral is okay. But I’m not going to cum from oral. I absolutely love penetrating ass. I’m not wild about being squeezed while inside. Also, I don’t particularly like tight holes. If they’re too tight, I’ll work until I open him up. That’s when it’s the very best feeling for me. I’m pretty thick. So, I like them loose holes. Yes, the act of being inside another man gets me rock hard. I like being joined together in a compromising position. And the… Read more »
Fucking a guys ass is not much different than a woman’s to me, except I know he has a prostate and I know how it feels to have prostate orgasms.
If you are fucking transgender you might have a point. However, there is an huge difference from in fucking a man’s ass than a woman. I’m calling BS on that one.
I exist for a tops absolute pleasure. I want to feel him put his arms around me, kissing my neck, my ears, moaning with sheer pleasure as he slides into me. I love to feel his weight on top of me, the body heat, the intimacy between two men. It gives me sheer pleasure to feel his manhood deep inside me as we wrap ourselves around each other. I need to feel wanted that way. For a man cum inside me is so intimate. So personal. So erotic.
I can totally relate to you, it makes me feel good to be wanting in a sexual way by anutha man
I started experimenting with topping (and guys in general) in SE Asia about 29 or so years ago. Turned out I was bi-, as suspected, but the original motivation was for something tighter that would be enough if I were using a condom (started to get sensitivity problems then). Can and did try females with the fifth base, but with guys it was a sure thing. At least that was my excuse. Was exclusively top for the next 20+ years. Kept trying on the bottoming and finally got it to work in the last 3-4 years or so.
I have never been fucked or fucked a man. I want to try it sometime being the bottom. I don’t know if I could ever be hard enough to top.
Topping (a practice considered by some as the pinnacle, end all, and the supreme validity of being “truly” Gay) is but one of the great options for man sex. Some options are: Bottoming Anal fingering and fisting Rimming, fletching Ball sucking and sack licking kissing, and nibbling Sucking, being sucked Swallowing, spitting, snowballing Nipple licking, sucking, flicking and pinching Arm pit licking, kissing and sucking Nose, ear and neck licking, kissing and sucking Hand, finger, feet, and toe licking and kissing Massaging (deep tissue and gentle fingering) Submission and Domination Role playing As always, when it comes to being Gay,… Read more »
”…what topics do you want us to explore next here on the Adam4Adam blog?” Looking at the “DL” or “In the Closet” or “Straight” guys, there are many posters here who don’t fit the “Gay mold” (stereotype). Most people see them as just another guy without considering their sexuality because it just isn’t evident. Many hardcore, committed Gay guys don’t embrace these guys; they actually vocally disdain them because “They’re not truly Gay.” Reading posts here, these “not truly Gay” guys are plentiful on the Blog. So … “What is it like to not be “OUT LOUD AND PROUD!”? Gay, but… Read more »
Every bottom loves a top who can make him leak and cum hands free just by fucking him. It’s even hotter when the top really loves that, too!
Just because you call yourself a top doesn’t mean you know how to use your cock right….some guys just try to bury it straight in thats a no-no for me….Im pretty tight so the top needs to open my hole first before going to pound town… when the top knows how to take care of his bottom it is pure bliss and I can take it for hours
And vise versa. There are plenty of satiable, greedy and aggressive bottoms out here. Goes both ways. Some are too lazy to even help the top out if he’s not hard right away.
ALL kinds of SEX are GREAT in their OWN WAY and EVERYONE has their FAVORITE POSITION!!!! NO one in the SEX ACT has ALL the POWER – at LEAST when they are MY SEX PARTNER!!!! Can’t be a TOP without a BOTTOM, And CAN’T suck and swallow without a hot hard COCK in your mouth – EQUALITY in SEX FOREVER!!!!!! If you want to BE a POWERLESS SUB, Go for it!!! I’ll NEVER be one of those!!! 🙂
For the most part I can be Vers but I do prefer Bottom with the right Top, preferably an Oral Top that is passionate with lots of kissing, likes oral and eager to rim. Most partners that I have been with say that I was built to Bottom, nice ass begging to get nailed and why they want to finger,eat and fuck the hell out of me. There are certain types that I am attracted too and when the STARS align, I am all In. As a Bottom I like a Dude that knows what he is doing….from foreplay,making out… Read more »