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A gay man online recently asked a refreshingly honest question: “Does anal actually feel good?” He added:
I feel awkward even thinking about posting this but I need advice. So I (male), recently bought a dildo as I wanted to experiment, and I have no issue with adjusting to the size given I have prior preparation, but I haven’t experienced anything that was “amazing” or “extraordinary” so I figured I was just doing something wrong. Another thing I’ve noticed is it just feels like I’m excreting (using more posh language since I feel oddly awkward about writing the word poo). Supposedly my mind is eventually supposed to become used to the difference but I’m not sure, that’s just something I’ve heard, I think this is what’s making the experience the least enjoyable since I just feel like it’s about to go horribly, horribly wrong and I get scared. Honestly I don’t know why I decided to write this and I might not have even explained it in a way for people to understand, but I want to enjoy the experience so I figured people could read it and give advice if they had any.
If you’ve ever wondered about the same thing or if you’ve ever struggled to understand the hype regarding anal sex, you’re definitely not alone.
One of the most upvoted responses kept it simple: “Real dick feels better than silicock.” Many men echoed the same sentiment—that there’s something about the energy and chemistry of a partner that can’t be replicated by sex toys. Another guy said, “It feels good when I’m horny. A dildo does not feel as good as the real thing because it’s the guy that makes me horny.” So maybe it’s not just about what’s going in, but who is putting it there.
Another gay man shared that it took him months to enjoy dildos, but once he got comfortable, it opened up a whole new level of pleasure. “I ride them like a good little slut,” he said. “But honestly, nothing compared to a real cock… I’ve cummed in my cage maybe 10 times without hands at all from a dildo.” Still, he said his most powerful orgasms happened with a real guy.
For some, sex toys never quite hit the mark. One man wrote, “I never really understood the hype around anal play and dildos, they just didn’t do anything for me. But then I tried a prostate vibrator, and wow… now I get it!” Meanwhile, some dude echoed that experience: “Yup. With the right cock…and guy.”
But not everyone is wired the same. One gay man admitted, “I actually don’t really feel anything ‘arousing’ to be honest, and maybe I just need to find the right cock and man… but I will say, afterward I can cum real quick just remembering how I was used.” This suggests that sometimes the eroticism is more mental and emotional than physical.
Of course, not everyone is into anal—and that’s okay too. As one commenter wisely put it, “Some people love it, some people find it ok, some hate it. Each his/her own. Just don’t let someone force you to do anal.”
So, Adam4Adam readers, what about you? Do you remember your first experience experimenting with anal? Was it awkward? Did you love it right away—or did it take time to learn your body and feel comfortable? Have sex toys worked for you or do you prefer the real deal? Share your thoughts, tips, and stories in the comments section down below.
“Some people love it, some people find it ok, some hate it. Each his/her own…” While personally anal does nothing for me (my FWBs say “you’re just not wire for it’), my pleasure comes second hand. I have FWBs who like to top. It’s been a process for me to learn to take them and I commend their patience as we worked through it. It’s been worth it because I enjoy working them up to the pleasure it brings them. I don’t just lay dormant while they fuck me. I respond with thrusts of my own and tightening of my… Read more »
a bit protracted but we get your point… .
Lmao, my first though; someone who knows how to fuck, -in return! I HATE laziness, especially, when they’re not particularly tight, lol.
I thought that was well and thoroughly expressed, actually.
it was. But he may have had a bit too much Sherry?
Jesus fuckin’ Christ, who thinks we’re going to read their paragraph reminiscences about getting plowed? The implicit narcissism is wild.
I love to be on my back so I can see my man’s face when he pleasures himself in me!
Maybe I’m the exception, but for me anal intercourse is more awesome than foreplay. There is just something so erotic about being penetrated and submitting your body to your partner. It isn’t the length that is most pleasurable, it is having your hole spread wide that makes me gush!
Could not possibly agree with you more. I have been approached by men interested in hooking up that tell me they are not into anal. I know everyone likes their own thing but I fir one have always told them…what’s the point.
Yes! Totally agree!!
What I have experience with anal sex (I have had both ease and difficulty with it): 1. It’s not about the penis size. It’s about how the initial penetration goes. 2. When guys penetrate you with extreme force, my experience is that it hurt a lot and very painful. Then, they try penetrate you like a jack-hammer. Very uncomfortable and not a very good feeling. 3. I have been penetrated regardless of the penis size, in a slow deliberate way. Slight discomfort until they get in. Then, they take their time to penetrating you in and out with a slow… Read more »
the first time it felt weird but after that it is pure pleasure for me
For me it doesn’t just feel good
..it feels beyond amazing. Never anything that’s come close to the feeling of a guy fucking me. The submission, the penetration, the feeling of someone taking pleasure in my body… Feeling them come inside me. it felt like the most natural perfect thing my body ever could do. And the orgasms are the most intense.
Fuck yes! There really is nothing like it and I want it so badly right now. And yes, the knowledge and feeling of them cumming inside of me is so hot!
Getting fucked while hitting poppers…….hard to beat!
Yes it feels amazing but my first time hurt and it still hurts today but feels good when a top knows what he is doing
Full bottom here absolutely love it especially with a top who knows how to fuck take me deep an hard get up in my second hole an my bussy will cream
I thought this was a silly question, until I read the text. NOTHING feels good in my ass as a real cock on a real man!
Toys have their uses, but I agree with everyone that ever mentioned that the real thing is far superior to the toys.
As long as the top takes their time to prepare me so that I am not in pain at the beginning, than anal is fantastic.
my first experience trying anal was first exploring sex with a guy, my BF at age 14. Like most of us, it started with exploring and experimenting best friends being horny and willing to try… i didnt like anal… so stop doing it.. i stuck with getting sucked off and sucking … and top once and awhile… . My next experience fast forward… around 42 years old…. was during a hook up with a guy i had played with before a few times… i was just a cock sucker and top… he knew that…but always tried to get me to… Read more »
Lovely history. My first cock was the brother of a buddy when I was 13. He was young so his cock was not huge, but very hard. I loved it, and never looked back. My first real man cock was when I was 15 and loved the stretch and feelings! I have love anal for 50 years! I have only penetrated women and love them, but nothing is a good as a real man using my body!
Hurts so good! Just get past entry then it’s on. As long as the top stops trying to make it come up your throat and out your mouth then it’s good. In other words, get past the initial entry & stop trying to go so deep ,aggressively. I understand as a versatile guy, I want to drive it home too. But let your top get in there & stroke & that shit is awesome
You get first prize in these responses with your “hurts so good!”
I think anal sex feels great if the top knows what he is doing. You get some guy who has no clue or is selfish lover then the experience is ruined.
Can say the same thing about greedy selfish bottoms or those who talk about how good they are…in their minds.
I do think different guys are wired differently. I tried to let guys top me and for a long time couldn’t relax and achieve penetration. Finally a buddy asked if he could try. He was the right guy as I was so relaxed that he slid right in. Within 5 minutes he made me cum in a way I had never imagined possible with my cock never getting touched. Everytime after was the exact same. Hard to find a guy I’m comfortable with and can actually arrange a time and place. So it has been years. Now I have a… Read more »
My first thoughts are never say never AND then there is just do whatever feels good. Hopefully that means you will have more pleasure being a top. Don’t fight this because lord knows there are not enough tops in our community.
I’m mostly a top by default. I think bottoming is overrated. There are so many of them. However I do like raw anal sex as a top and bottom.
That’s funny because I feel the same about topping but LOVE to bottom. Yes, raw is the best but must be done carefully with a guy that you KNOW is clean.
I started to experience anal play when I was young starting with my fingers then toothbrush hairbrush markers…basically anything I could find laying around the house and I enjoyed it…the first time I bought myself a dildo and used it didnt feel as good as i thought but it didnt stop me from trying again it did make me feel like I wanted to poop but I think it was because i was too tight….eventually I kept on using dildos but was slways a top until one time playing with a bottom guy he decided he wanted to use my… Read more »
I love your story. I have not been able to get past my second hole – it is still a dream! I’d really like to be bred that deep! Enjoy your experiences!
Is there too much pain for you to get it past your 2nd hole?
That sounds like a hot introduction to bottoming
Good god. I’ve been at this for years, but I must claim ignorance here: What’s a “second hole?”
Well inside your hole there is a 2nd hole inside a few inches deep
Your booty is like a canal. A really long penis will reach the other end of the canal. When that happens you will automatically fall in love.
Age 14, I got hold of a shampoo bottle whose lid was an ideal round shape to shove up my ass. For my first top “toy,” I had this large balloon. Before inflating it, I had this tweezer with which I pulled back the end tip in, then inflated it so that there was this opening in it that more or less formed a very real-feeling asshole. I “fucked” it, came inside it, and somehow it felt great. I don’t think it lasted any longer though. I had to wait 4 years for a real ass to fuck.
I first fucked a guy at age 20 and sure i had no idea what i was doing. I first bottomed 20 years later. But it is in last 5 years i truly knew how good it could feel as a bottom. When my buddy Dave fucks me in missionary position. I know what pure anal pleasure is. He spreads me so well that i hit pleasure centers that send me sky high.
I top alot but only bottom for Dave since he is only one that makes me reach these levels of pleasure.
my anal cavity remains as God intended: an exit not a repurposed entrance! felt this at 16 when I first said “No”.
yo, right on!
By reading your replies, I am sure your entire existence of that of an anal cavity.
Hello everyone for me I prefer the real thing because when he touches you the excitement just comes over your body and you really feel the size of his cock going in and out where as a toy you just feel the same thing it’s hard you can tell it’s just silicone and there’s nobody touching you that makes the experience feel so much better plus with a really cock you also have the opportunity to make out with him and that helps make everything so much more fun and being able to get the reward at the end of… Read more »
LOVE to bottom for a good top! Once you learn to relax and let him in you, there is nothing quite like it! But yeah, I love being fucked! And once I’m good and loosened up, I like to be pounded some. But not the whole time. Slow and sensual is overall the best. Getting rimmed really makes me super horny and begging to be fucked, so that helps a lot to relax my hole too. I crave that feeling so much that I have a nice collection of oversized dildos to really give me that stretch and deep penetration.… Read more »
I’ve only been a bottom about 12 different sex sessions in my life and found that being a top is much more satisfying/gratifying for me and the bottoms I’ve encountered. But, hey, somebody has to be a bottom…and I don’t mean versatile bottoms. I will admit that my azz came about 4 different sessions, so, I see how a top can prolong bustin’ a nutt because his dick feels like, pending on how wet the bottom gets, poking a stick in a pool of water. Long live bottoms! Otherwise, we tops will jus5 whack off.
Use me anytime!
The two biggest complaints I see about bottoming, that it hurts and that they feel like they need to go, are both related to natural reflex, and I found out how to beat both of those when I first bottomed in one of my earliest encounters. I now mostly top. Your rectum is built to where, when you feel pressure, you need to go. If there is pressure inside the anal sphincter, the nerves tell the body that it must push the contents of the rectum all the way out. Once the rectum is empty, the muscles relax. The way… Read more »
I tried the bottom role a few times but never got much pleasure from it. On the other hand, I love topping a nice as that really enjoys it. I have a subtle upward curve to my cock that hits G Spots and prostates just right in missionary position and I have made several bottoms cum hands free just from the fuck and I adore giving that kind of intense pleasure.
I love being a bottom! I derive so much pleasure from being a “pleaser”! The feeling I get from having a Top use my holes to get off drives me wild!!
Love a Dom Top who likes to give it to me hard, deep, and rough! Spank me and fill me with your hot cum
Have been topped about 5 times. The first was with a very small cock but hard as a rock. Was pleasurable. Had one pretty good sized one and he pushed in deep especially when he came. I think it’s the thinking of a guy cumming in you, the being his that is the turn on.
Nothing better than the feeling of a guy going deep and unloading in me. I love to be on my back so I can see his face when he finally explodes!
It depends on the individual and the top but for me it’s fantastic it really a wonderful feeling
My first top and bottom experiences came with the same guy, same time about 47 years ago when i was 18. I remember it all as clear as day. I had an agenda to try just about everything. We started out 69’ing and I was in absolute heaven. There was his cock an inch from my mouth and with zero hesitation, I gobbled it up. Then after a fair bit of mutual sucking, it was time to fuck. I laid face down on the bed, he lubed up my ass thoroughly, then knowing he was about to pop my cherry,… Read more »
It feels good if the dick is the right size, stay rock hard the entire time, the top guy be creative and not boring, have stamina and patience.
As a Top I only care about a clean and tight hole. The bottom usually likes it, but he’s not the one that has to get and keep it up. His pain is my pleasure
Once a man is inside me , it’s euphoric, I kind of black out, it’s hard to describe, there are times, when I’ve cummed,cummerbund, I’ve been fucked.
One particularly proficient top I enjoyed for years before moving away said to me, “I don’t know where you go, but wherever it is, looks like the best place you’ve ever been.
In a word…YES!”, but I do not like anger sex ….I’ve never understood why some guys just have to pound so hard I can’t see either getting any pleasure out of it.
For me, I’m so tight that it hurts, but it hurts good. I’m sure you know how I mean. Getting into position, feeling them penetrating me, getting deeper, then finally grabbing my hips and getting into a nice, pumping rhythm, relaxing my muscles back there to let them go even deeper, spreading my legs as wide a possible for them to get the most out of enjoying my body. Whew! Is it hot in here, or is it just me! lol
This is kind of a mixed bag for me. I like the feeling of being used. Starting out, ansl sex is kind of painful for me but I will usually follow through and complete the act even though it’s painful. I don’t know why that is. It may be the humiliation of bring penetrated in front of others.
If the top knows what he is doing and is attentive to my reactions, then it can be an AMAZINGLY mind blowing experience for both!