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A gay man online recently asked a refreshingly honest question: “Does anal actually feel good?” He added:

I feel awkward even thinking about posting this but I need advice. So I (male), recently bought a dildo as I wanted to experiment, and I have no issue with adjusting to the size given I have prior preparation, but I haven’t experienced anything that was “amazing” or “extraordinary” so I figured I was just doing something wrong. Another thing I’ve noticed is it just feels like I’m excreting (using more posh language since I feel oddly awkward about writing the word poo). Supposedly my mind is eventually supposed to become used to the difference but I’m not sure, that’s just something I’ve heard, I think this is what’s making the experience the least enjoyable since I just feel like it’s about to go horribly, horribly wrong and I get scared. Honestly I don’t know why I decided to write this and I might not have even explained it in a way for people to understand, but I want to enjoy the experience so I figured people could read it and give advice if they had any.

If you’ve ever wondered about the same thing or if you’ve ever struggled to understand the hype regarding anal sex, you’re definitely not alone.

One of the most upvoted responses kept it simple: “Real dick feels better than silicock.” Many men echoed the same sentiment—that there’s something about the energy and chemistry of a partner that can’t be replicated by sex toys. Another guy said, “It feels good when I’m horny. A dildo does not feel as good as the real thing because it’s the guy that makes me horny.” So maybe it’s not just about what’s going in, but who is putting it there.

Another gay man shared that it took him months to enjoy dildos, but once he got comfortable, it opened up a whole new level of pleasure. “I ride them like a good little slut,” he said. “But honestly, nothing compared to a real cock… I’ve cummed in my cage maybe 10 times without hands at all from a dildo.” Still, he said his most powerful orgasms happened with a real guy.

For some, sex toys never quite hit the mark. One man wrote, “I never really understood the hype around anal play and dildos, they just didn’t do anything for me. But then I tried a prostate vibrator, and wow… now I get it!” Meanwhile, some dude echoed that experience: “Yup. With the right cock…and guy.”

But not everyone is wired the same. One gay man admitted, “I actually don’t really feel anything ‘arousing’ to be honest, and maybe I just need to find the right cock and man… but I will say, afterward I can cum real quick just remembering how I was used.” This suggests that sometimes the eroticism is more mental and emotional than physical.

Of course, not everyone is into anal—and that’s okay too. As one commenter wisely put it, “Some people love it, some people find it ok, some hate it. Each his/her own. Just don’t let someone force you to do anal.”

So, Adam4Adam readers, what about you? Do you remember your first experience experimenting with anal? Was it awkward? Did you love it right away—or did it take time to learn your body and feel comfortable? Have sex toys worked for you or do you prefer the real deal? Share your thoughts, tips, and stories in the comments section down below.

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