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A gay man online recently asked a refreshingly honest question: “Does anal actually feel good?” He added:
I feel awkward even thinking about posting this but I need advice. So I (male), recently bought a dildo as I wanted to experiment, and I have no issue with adjusting to the size given I have prior preparation, but I haven’t experienced anything that was “amazing” or “extraordinary” so I figured I was just doing something wrong. Another thing I’ve noticed is it just feels like I’m excreting (using more posh language since I feel oddly awkward about writing the word poo). Supposedly my mind is eventually supposed to become used to the difference but I’m not sure, that’s just something I’ve heard, I think this is what’s making the experience the least enjoyable since I just feel like it’s about to go horribly, horribly wrong and I get scared. Honestly I don’t know why I decided to write this and I might not have even explained it in a way for people to understand, but I want to enjoy the experience so I figured people could read it and give advice if they had any.
If you’ve ever wondered about the same thing or if you’ve ever struggled to understand the hype regarding anal sex, you’re definitely not alone.
One of the most upvoted responses kept it simple: “Real dick feels better than silicock.” Many men echoed the same sentiment—that there’s something about the energy and chemistry of a partner that can’t be replicated by sex toys. Another guy said, “It feels good when I’m horny. A dildo does not feel as good as the real thing because it’s the guy that makes me horny.” So maybe it’s not just about what’s going in, but who is putting it there.
Another gay man shared that it took him months to enjoy dildos, but once he got comfortable, it opened up a whole new level of pleasure. “I ride them like a good little slut,” he said. “But honestly, nothing compared to a real cock… I’ve cummed in my cage maybe 10 times without hands at all from a dildo.” Still, he said his most powerful orgasms happened with a real guy.
For some, sex toys never quite hit the mark. One man wrote, “I never really understood the hype around anal play and dildos, they just didn’t do anything for me. But then I tried a prostate vibrator, and wow… now I get it!” Meanwhile, some dude echoed that experience: “Yup. With the right cock…and guy.”
But not everyone is wired the same. One gay man admitted, “I actually don’t really feel anything ‘arousing’ to be honest, and maybe I just need to find the right cock and man… but I will say, afterward I can cum real quick just remembering how I was used.” This suggests that sometimes the eroticism is more mental and emotional than physical.
Of course, not everyone is into anal—and that’s okay too. As one commenter wisely put it, “Some people love it, some people find it ok, some hate it. Each his/her own. Just don’t let someone force you to do anal.”
So, Adam4Adam readers, what about you? Do you remember your first experience experimenting with anal? Was it awkward? Did you love it right away—or did it take time to learn your body and feel comfortable? Have sex toys worked for you or do you prefer the real deal? Share your thoughts, tips, and stories in the comments section down below.
“Some people love it, some people find it ok, some hate it. Each his/her own…” While personally anal does nothing for me (my FWBs say “you’re just not wire for it’), my pleasure comes second hand. I have FWBs who like to top. It’s been a process for me to learn to take them and I commend their patience as we worked through it. It’s been worth it because I enjoy working them up to the pleasure it brings them. I don’t just lay dormant while they fuck me. I respond with thrusts of my own and tightening of my… Read more »
Maybe I’m the exception, but for me anal intercourse is more awesome than foreplay. There is just something so erotic about being penetrated and submitting your body to your partner. It isn’t the length that is most pleasurable, it is having your hole spread wide that makes me gush!
What I have experience with anal sex (I have had both ease and difficulty with it): 1. It’s not about the penis size. It’s about how the initial penetration goes. 2. When guys penetrate you with extreme force, my experience is that it hurt a lot and very painful. Then, they try penetrate you like a jack-hammer. Very uncomfortable and not a very good feeling. 3. I have been penetrated regardless of the penis size, in a slow deliberate way. Slight discomfort until they get in. Then, they take their time to penetrating you in and out with a slow… Read more »
the first time it felt weird but after that it is pure pleasure for me
For me it doesn’t just feel good
..it feels beyond amazing. Never anything that’s come close to the feeling of a guy fucking me. The submission, the penetration, the feeling of someone taking pleasure in my body… Feeling them come inside me. it felt like the most natural perfect thing my body ever could do. And the orgasms are the most intense.
Yes it feels amazing but my first time hurt and it still hurts today but feels good when a top knows what he is doing
Full bottom here absolutely love it especially with a top who knows how to fuck take me deep an hard get up in my second hole an my bussy will cream
I thought this was a silly question, until I read the text. NOTHING feels good in my ass as a real cock on a real man!
Toys have their uses, but I agree with everyone that ever mentioned that the real thing is far superior to the toys.
As long as the top takes their time to prepare me so that I am not in pain at the beginning, than anal is fantastic.
my first experience trying anal was first exploring sex with a guy, my BF at age 14. Like most of us, it started with exploring and experimenting best friends being horny and willing to try… i didnt like anal… so stop doing it.. i stuck with getting sucked off and sucking … and top once and awhile… . My next experience fast forward… around 42 years old…. was during a hook up with a guy i had played with before a few times… i was just a cock sucker and top… he knew that…but always tried to get me to… Read more »
Hurts so good! Just get past entry then it’s on. As long as the top stops trying to make it come up your throat and out your mouth then it’s good. In other words, get past the initial entry & stop trying to go so deep ,aggressively. I understand as a versatile guy, I want to drive it home too. But let your top get in there & stroke & that shit is awesome
I think anal sex feels great if the top knows what he is doing. You get some guy who has no clue or is selfish lover then the experience is ruined.
Can say the same thing about greedy selfish bottoms or those who talk about how good they are…in their minds.
I do think different guys are wired differently. I tried to let guys top me and for a long time couldn’t relax and achieve penetration. Finally a buddy asked if he could try. He was the right guy as I was so relaxed that he slid right in. Within 5 minutes he made me cum in a way I had never imagined possible with my cock never getting touched. Everytime after was the exact same. Hard to find a guy I’m comfortable with and can actually arrange a time and place. So it has been years. Now I have a… Read more »
My first thoughts are never say never AND then there is just do whatever feels good. Hopefully that means you will have more pleasure being a top. Don’t fight this because lord knows there are not enough tops in our community.
I’m mostly a top by default. I think bottoming is overrated. There are so many of them. However I do like raw anal sex as a top and bottom.