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For most of us, we’re pretty set in our sexual roles. If you’re a top, you probably know your way around giving the pleasure, being in control, and leading the action. But every now and then, even tops might get curious about what it feels like on the other side. So, here’s a question for all you tops out there: Have you ever bottomed? And if so, how was it?
Switching roles in the bedroom can be a thrilling change, especially if you’re with a partner who makes you feel comfortable and safe. For some tops, bottoming might happen spontaneously—maybe during an intimate moment when the chemistry is so intense, you decide to give it a try. For others, it might have been something you planned, perhaps just to see what all the fuss is about. Either way, we’d love to hear about your experience.
One Reddit user recounted their story, saying, “Just bottomed for the first time. Bottoms, now I understand you.” He added:
So, I (30M), have been sexually active for a few months but always as the top. Last night my power bottom FWB strangely expressed interest in topping me (he’s 33 and had only topped 3 times before in his life). He’s got a fairly small 4-inch dick but since it was my first time bottoming it was perfect size. He stuck it in me slowly and it didn’t hurt like I thought it would. Instead, I felt a deep pressure inside my body like something was going to explode.
It freaked me out at first but the more he kept going the more I got used to it. He kept going at it and I found myself making all sorts of noises and gestures. Before when I would watch porn, I thought most bottoms exaggerated their moaning for the camera but last night I was moaning like a bitch and making all sorts of noises and facial expressions I’d never done before. The feeling of being completely submissive by another person was something I’d never experienced before, and it was amazing. When I’m topping, I’m often thinking ‘Am I doing it right?’ ‘Is he (the bottom) really enjoying it?’ Last night when I was bottoming the thinking part of my brain shut off and I was solely focused on what I was feeling. Honestly the mental aspect of bottoming was more exciting and invigorating than the actual physical act.
What about you, guys? Did you find the experience to be fun, or maybe even empowering in a different way? Or were you uncomfortable and immediately knew it wasn’t for you? Sometimes, trying something new just reaffirms what we already know about ourselves. But even so, it can be an interesting way to expand your understanding of sex and connection.
And now the big question: Would you ever bottom again? Was it a one-time deal for you, or did you enjoy it enough to try again? For some tops, bottoming could open up new possibilities, while for others, it might just be a checkmark on the list of things they’ve tried.
For those tops who’ve never given bottoming a try, are you open to it? What’s holding you back, if anything? Is it a matter of preference, or maybe something else, like not feeling comfortable or ready? We’re curious to hear from those who are sticking to topping, too!
We’re curious to hear your stories. If you’re a top who’s bottomed, how was it? What led you to give it a try, and would you do it again? Share your experience with us and let other Adam4Adam blog readers know what it was like to switch things up in the bedroom!
Top? Bottom? When I began having sex with guys, it wasn’t something I cared about. When guys asked, I said I’d never done either. Also that I knew I wasn’t strong when it came to being in a condom and that I wasn’t looking for Top to “take me”. As I got know some good FWBs, they understood. A couple of them (separately) would massage my hole and over time finger me. Eventually, one good bud suggested a “toy”. Upon insertion, I just knew I had to “shit NOW!”. So, we went back to fingering. Over time, some of my… Read more »
And this my friends is why it’s best to be versatile [like me] because you’ll never have room to doubt yourself lol. It’s interesting that people declares themselves a top or bottom due towards what they feel, or believe, earlier in life that that’s what they are then discovers later on in life once curiosity gets the better of them that “Oh wait…maybe I’m not a total top/bottom that I’d initially thought about myself.” Then you’ll start seeing their profiles change from Top to Verse-Top, Versatile, Verse-Bottom, or they turned a whole 360 and became a total bottom lol. This… Read more »
Had always been a top. Loved my ass ate, though never had a desire to bottom. Then one night a regular fuck buddy, for some reason was really into eating my ass, longer than he ever had. He has me so fucking horny I rolled over into the middle of the bed, head down ass up. He ate me for a while longer then got behind me and worked his 8″ cock into me slowly. All of a sudden I felt like I was floating in air (we were both high on weed) and could hear myself moaning like a… Read more »
First time I got FUCK and not on weed. I DID FEEL LIKE I WAS FLOATING ON AIR!! I enjoy both top and bottom. It just depends on what happens..
Yeah, I do, enjoy being rimmed, for sure.
switch-hitting?
IT WAS ++++HORRIFIC+++
When I first came out, everyone wanted to fuck me and I loved it. The first gay bar I went to, went totally silent, the second I entered the door. I was one of the prettiest boys in town (Portland, Oregon) and I could pretty much pick any of the hottest guys to fuck me. I never even thought about fucking anyone, they always wanted to fuck me anyway. Until one day in an old fashioned bookstore peep show room in back, a cute white boy got my attention. We dropped our pants and started playing around and when he… Read more »
From what I’ve gotten from your post, it seems to me that you were exploring your sexuality during your youth making you quite a versatile guy which is nothing wrong with that. I don’t know where you stand in your sexual role in these times of days, but I feel (And feel free to correct me if I’m wrong) my intuition is telling me that you’re most likely a top or maybe even a verse-top. Nonetheless it seems like you’ve had one hell of a good time in your youthful years. And I hope you still are ❤. As a… Read more »
Well, When I got my first apt., I tried “doing myself” experimenting with my own anus, using; you’re going to chuckle, a polish sausage, get this, I was thoughtful or creative enough to warm it first, as I wanted it to feel as much like the real thing as possible, I did nothing for me. Then, I came out, The first real time; he was very small, it hurt like hell-felt a pencil of something; me on my back, I though, wrong position, perhaps? Second trial and last time; he was I’m guessing a 7′ in sz? Anyway, this time,… Read more »
My first attempt at being fucked was terrible. The idiot just shoved his average-sized cock straight in me with no preparation at all and it hurt like hell! to add insult to the injury, he only lasted about four strokes before cumming. that confirmed to me that I am a top. I do have one long time lover that I have deep feelings of affection for that I will let top me and he’s gentle so it doesn’t hurt but I get little from the experience except enjoying his pleasure.