(Photo Credits: Dmytro Zinkevych from Shutterstock)

For most of us, we’re pretty set in our sexual roles. If you’re a top, you probably know your way around giving the pleasure, being in control, and leading the action. But every now and then, even tops might get curious about what it feels like on the other side. So, here’s a question for all you tops out there: Have you ever bottomed? And if so, how was it?

Switching roles in the bedroom can be a thrilling change, especially if you’re with a partner who makes you feel comfortable and safe. For some tops, bottoming might happen spontaneously—maybe during an intimate moment when the chemistry is so intense, you decide to give it a try. For others, it might have been something you planned, perhaps just to see what all the fuss is about. Either way, we’d love to hear about your experience.

One Reddit user recounted their story, saying, “Just bottomed for the first time. Bottoms, now I understand you.” He added:

So, I (30M), have been sexually active for a few months but always as the top. Last night my power bottom FWB strangely expressed interest in topping me (he’s 33 and had only topped 3 times before in his life). He’s got a fairly small 4-inch dick but since it was my first time bottoming it was perfect size. He stuck it in me slowly and it didn’t hurt like I thought it would. Instead, I felt a deep pressure inside my body like something was going to explode.

It freaked me out at first but the more he kept going the more I got used to it. He kept going at it and I found myself making all sorts of noises and gestures. Before when I would watch porn, I thought most bottoms exaggerated their moaning for the camera but last night I was moaning like a bitch and making all sorts of noises and facial expressions I’d never done before. The feeling of being completely submissive by another person was something I’d never experienced before, and it was amazing. When I’m topping, I’m often thinking ‘Am I doing it right?’ ‘Is he (the bottom) really enjoying it?’ Last night when I was bottoming the thinking part of my brain shut off and I was solely focused on what I was feeling. Honestly the mental aspect of bottoming was more exciting and invigorating than the actual physical act.

What about you, guys? Did you find the experience to be fun, or maybe even empowering in a different way? Or were you uncomfortable and immediately knew it wasn’t for you? Sometimes, trying something new just reaffirms what we already know about ourselves. But even so, it can be an interesting way to expand your understanding of sex and connection.

And now the big question: Would you ever bottom again? Was it a one-time deal for you, or did you enjoy it enough to try again? For some tops, bottoming could open up new possibilities, while for others, it might just be a checkmark on the list of things they’ve tried.

For those tops who’ve never given bottoming a try, are you open to it? What’s holding you back, if anything? Is it a matter of preference, or maybe something else, like not feeling comfortable or ready? We’re curious to hear from those who are sticking to topping, too!

We’re curious to hear your stories. If you’re a top who’s bottomed, how was it? What led you to give it a try, and would you do it again? Share your experience with us and let other Adam4Adam blog readers know what it was like to switch things up in the bedroom!

3.5 12 votes
Article Rating