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Imagine this: You’re in the heat of the moment with a new hookup or date. Things are getting steamy, and just as you’re about to take it to the next level, you mention that you prefer to have sex with a condom. Suddenly, they pull back, saying they don’t need to use one because they’re on PrEP or recently tested negative for STIs. What do you do? How do you handle this situation?
Anyway, I read about this issue online on a regular basis as well, how some guys would get pressured into having unprotected sex because the other party says he is on PrEP. However, it’s not always just about PrEP though, the scenarios vary, see below for examples:
1. Scenario 1: The PrEP Advocate
You’ve been chatting with this guy for a while, and finally, you meet up. Everything is perfect until you reach for a condom. He stops you, saying, “Don’t worry, I’m on PrEP and get tested regularly. We don’t need that.” You insist, but he’s adamant, and the mood starts to shift.
2. Scenario 2: The Recent Test
It’s your second date with a guy you really like. Things are moving fast, and when you bring out a condom, he says, “I just got tested last week, and I’m clean. We don’t need to use one.” You’re left feeling unsure and hesitant, trying to balance your desire for safety with the fear of ruining the moment.
3. Scenario 3: The Ghosting
You’ve been seeing someone for a few months, and you’ve always used condoms. One night, he suggests going without, citing his PrEP regimen and recent negative test results. You express your preference to continue using condoms, and the next thing you know, he starts distancing himself, eventually ghosting you altogether.
Sounds familiar?
While the emergence of PrEP has revolutionized HIV prevention, it’s crucial to remember that it doesn’t protect against other STIs like gonorrhea, chlamydia, or syphilis. Condoms, on the other hand, provide a barrier against a range of infections, making them an essential part of sexual health for many people.
Moreover, the foundation of any healthy sexual relationship is consent and communication so let your hookup or partner or boyfriend know what you want. It’s vital to communicate your boundaries and preferences to your partner, ensuring that both parties feel safe and respected. If your hookup or partner isn’t willing to honor your preference for condom use, it’s a sign that they may not respect your boundaries and health choices. Anyway, here are words of advice for you if you so ever choose to go bareback.
That being said, the rise of PrEP has led some guys to refuse sex with those who prefer using condoms. This can create a challenging dynamic, where one’s health and safety preferences are pitted against another’s comfort and routine.
Adam4Adam members, what do you think about this issue? Have you ever found yourself in a situation where your date or hookup refused to use a condom because they’re on PrEP or recently tested negative? Have you been ghosted by a boyfriend or fuck buddy over this preference?
We want to hear your thoughts and stories. Share your experiences in the comments section below, and let’s foster a discussion about the importance of sexual health, consent, and communication in our community.
No condom, no ass
I am sixty-four and came of age during the AIDS epidemic. I am alive today because of condom use. I dated on and off a guy twenty years my junior who ghosted me after giving me a lecture about how selfish I was by depriving him of pleasure by insisting on condom usage. Would I trust assurances of PrEP use by someone that immature? No.
Ditto, we’re the same age, because ‘we’ used condoms, even in a monogamous relation, ‘I’ still insisted on wearing one with my lovers (2), as anal penetration, is just not my thing personally, as I, get nothing out of it, but if were inclined, he’d wear one get no booty.
I am 65 and am alive today because I never bottomed. I may never do it. No loss.
Just a bit of a superior attitude there.
Saying that you’ve never bottomed and may never is not a superior attitude.. itscsinoly a decision. Perhaps it’s more of an inferiority complex on your end?
You know what, I’m known my friends as being very level headed, Not in to pissy attitude or the stuff that a lot of the younger guys tend to get into these days without really knowing what the rest of us went through. But in this case I’m gonna definitely side with RParktop here … And let me just say I’ve worked in communications for over 30 years, so I am more than licensed to say what i’m about to say … First of all the entire topic of this conversation had nothing whatsoever to do with whether you do… Read more »
says the guy that can’t get it up
you are not alone
To be fair, Mother Hennepin, no one would want to. I mean ewww… it’s you.
I’m 68 and alive today because I have been sodomized raw by 50 Black guys (not all at once) and by several hundred other men of all races. I have sodomized raw, several thousand men of all races also. I have the welcome dumb luck, of having the Delta 32 deformity in my T-cells that locks out HIV from entering my cells and turning them into little HIV factories.
#stopprepbashing
I’ve walked away from an encounter because of this after already getting naked. No condom, no sex, no exceptions = no worries.
A lot of gay men on or not on prep believe that throwing the phrase “I’m on prep” into the conversation when potentially hooking up gives them a pass to have raw sex. I tell them that HIV medications including prep are mask to cover the infection, but does not prevent one from getting other strains that may arise. Because once a person is constantly having unprotected sex with various infected people, if they were to stop taking the medications, all infections and diseases will attack their immune system vigorously. But a lot of gay men don’t care, they chance… Read more »
It is shocking to see young men getting infected, and appalling. That raw sex is so common is utterly irresponsible. It’s no wonder people are afraid or hate the gay community, because too many of us won’t be responsible adults. The only thing in our favor is that we’re not making babies.
Do you thing the same of every smoker or obese person on the streets?
There’s a member on this site(screen name WON’T BE MENTIONED cause he may see this) I’m chatting with that I find attractive(he’s 60+ and I’m 50+), but insists that if we meet up for some ‘fun’ that he’s strictly BB person – always has been and always will. Get this – he’s already HIV(U=U) and so am I. His ego-arrogant attitude seems that he doesn’t care what the outcome/circumstances of unprotected sex is gonna be, as long he either gets F**CKED or GIVES THE F**KIN(mostly Twinks, but open to others). I’m trying not to judge and YET WHY is such… Read more »
There are super-spreaders, negative or positive. A few people are immune, good for them, they should be studied. But it’s no excuse.
“A few people are immune” – yeah I gonna go on that with ‘a grain a salt’ that may be true, but also too many LIE about their status whether it’s pos/neg w/o some kind of legit proof so they can get that quicky.
No, no, there is such a thing as “immune” I was watching PBS on the subject; it has everything to do, with the “Bubonic Plague” that killed many Europeans of the day, but not all, if had a brush with it, you developed an immunity to it, that has been passed on to the future generations/family members.
They really aren’t immune. They have the virus in their blood but it doesn’t progress to AIDS. I’ve seen guys offering to “gift” on A4A and have reported them but only get back a generic response about not being able to verify someone’s HIV status. I don’t think that “gifting” should be allowed here but who am I to judge. The drug companies do not want to cure HIV or create a vaccine. The money is in the Prep, PEP and the ongoing treatments if you have it. These are expensive drugs and your life is still uncertain if your… Read more »
My story is a mixture of all the above. I talked with a guy on here for a number of months and he sounded great. We finally had an opportunity to meet and I went to his place. I should’ve left when he didn’t look exactly like he had described and the pictures didn’t show, but the wrong head prevailed. Things progressed into him fucking me. The only issue was when he was done I found that he had stealthed me. I wasn’t happy but he insisted that he had just tested at work (he supposedly worked at a hospital)… Read more »
criminal prosecution, lawsuit and/or more exotic revenge. a compromised life should be avenged
All of that went through my head, but also the fact that I put myself in a stupid situation does too. Believe me, my mind went through all possibilities of revenge for what he did to me. That said, I did give all of his info to the state of NC when they asked who I had been in contact with. He was the only possibility but they wouldn’t tell me his results nor would they pursue criminal charges. I also reported him to A4A support and they claimed they could do nothing about his status. He denied everything with… Read more »
IF I’m not mistaken…there are more than one state having passed laws if a guy lies to you about condoms…felony misdemeanor for the lie…. FELONY if you are actually infected. Though there is the burden of proof.
That’s a hell of testimony, thank you! I hope it saves at least one young man on here, at least one. It’s such a rarity, for a man to want to top me, lol, it’s my height/size baritone voice and maybe, the way of my character or something I’m not consciously aware of; but for the last 40 some years; there has been only one who wanted to, here in Soflo. He was a real turn-on, from the time I opened the door, as I had prayed/wished; please let this man ‘actually’ be attractive, lol, well! I damn near had… Read more »
Thanks! I hope it helps save at least one guy from the torture and stigma that HIV gives you. There is a hardly a day that goes by where I don’t think about that night and how easily I could’ve avoided it, but that is useless behavior and I immediately try to bring myself back to reality. I can’t change what happened now. I have to learn to live with it and perhaps save someone else this affliction. And for those married guys on the DL like me, I had to tell my wife what I did and what happened.… Read more »
I’m just so glad that you did not pass it on to you wife, whom I’m sure is probably a good woman. Every bi- or DL needs a good woman, you’ll see, when you are old like myself, but happily, considering what we’re discussing here as I am still here and very healthy, no meds, just vitamins every day. I just hope you’ve forgiven yourself, not beating yourself up over it; you have not passed it on, so you don’t have that on your conscience, since it sounds like you’re in touch with yours. Just keep living and loving and… Read more »
Wow!! Thanks so much for that, Lamar!and yes, I am super happy that I didn’t pass it on to my wife or anyone else. She is a very good woman and she has been amazing with this and we have gotten closer, but I am one of the lucky ones there. It was very scary building up the courage to tell her what happened and that I was HIV positive. That was one of the absolutely worst times in my life. I don’t wish that on anyone. I do still occasionally beat myself up over it, but I recognize it… Read more »
PrEP is free. I’ve been on it for 10 years. It is readily available all over the country. State Medicaid pays for it. I’ve been a test subject for hiv research since the VaxGen study. I never heard anyone ever say anything about being immune. These are conversations to be had with medical professionals. I do wonder if some of these “experts” even tell their MD’s they have sex with men.
It isn’t “free”. Either your insurance pays, you pay or everyone else pays through the government. Someone is paying for it.
Yes, Gilead are bandits, but free to the needful is a good thing.
what difference does it make if it saves a life? None of us control where our tax dollars go… but the “I’ve got mine, I’m not paying for yours” is just bs.
” The money is in the Prep, PEP and the ongoing treatments if you have it. These are expensive drugs and your life is still uncertain i” Many of the treatments are free or very low cost through your Dr. I have discussed the “U=U” issue with many Dr’s… yup, they tell me it’s true. But… I don’t care…IF you are HIV+…the virus IS in your system! As an “adult” during the crisis and beyond (80’s…90’s) Having their DPAHC…I spent way too many hours in the ICU waiting for friends to die. While it may be my own paranoia or not…… Read more »
Even if I get the virus in my blood, my T-cells eliminate it. HIV cannot enter my cells because of my deformed CCR5 Receptor I am essentially uninfectable by HIV, at least HIV that is CCR5-tropic, which is most of the HIV that is transmitted. This was discovered when people evaluated certain individuals who were exposed to HIV multiple times but didn’t contract it. HIV has to enter your cells to creaet a storm of HIV. If HIV can’t your T-cells will kill it out.
Please explain what exactly a “ negative super-spreader” is. I asked my PCP, an infectious disease MD, & she had no idea what it is.
maybe a “super spreader” is defined as someone having more sex than we are LOLOL I’m kidding of course…I’ve spoken to my Dr (gay and did post grad work under Dr Faucci)…there is no such thing as a “super spreader.” You are either HIV+ or you aren’t. Like can be a “little bit pregnant”
I make it easy on myself: If a guy is on Prep, I look elsewhere, because many Prep users do what this blog indicates – they freely fuck BB. I don’t care how effective Prep may be, I only use condoms, period. So fortunately for me, I’ve never encountered the scenario this blog describes.
I’m on PrEP strictly for my own health ‘care’. As a Veteran, and a medical background, it’s a precaution I thought was warranted despite never ‘tempting’ the effectiveness (of PrEP) by having unprotected (i.e. “Raw”) sex. I survived the AIDS epidemic of the 80’s, 90’s, and 2000’s because of my medical understanding and use of condoms. My decision to be part of the PrEP regimen was and still is, in no way a license for additional risky and/or promiscuous behavior because “I’m on PrEP”. I’ve never considered the above scenario (“If a guy is on Prep (sic), I look elsewhere…”)… Read more »
let me guess, you were bullied and/or not picked for basketball.
Condoms whether for HIV protection or not…are always a good idea. There are many other STDs or communicable diseases that a condom will help protect you. (besides..who wants to pull our a feces covered dick?)
If you’re getting shit on your cock after a fuck, you’re hooking up with the wrong bottoms.
Apologies if I insulted you or came across as bigoted. If you view a lot of a4a profiles as I do, check how many put “Bareback” or “Depends” – “I’m on PrEP” in the “practice” section. Those are the types I avoid. My conclusion is also based on the fact that I’m an older guy who seeks younger guys, and we all know younger guys tend to take safe sex less seriously.
I’m on PrEP strictly for my own health ‘care’. As a Veteran, and a medical background, it’s a precaution I thought was warranted despite never ‘tempting’ the effectiveness (of PrEP) by having unprotected (i.e. “Raw”) sex. I survived the AIDS epidemic of the 80’s, 90’s, and 2000’s because of my medical understanding and use of condoms. My decision to be part of the PrEP regimen was and still is, in no way a license for additional risky and/or promiscuous behavior because “I’m on PrEP”. I’ve never considered the above scenario (“If a guy is on Prep (sic), I look elsewhere…”)… Read more »
I’m on PrEP strictly for my own health ‘care’. As a Veteran, and a medical background, it’s a precaution I thought was warranted despite never ‘tempting’ the effectiveness (of PrEP) by having unprotected (i.e. “Raw”) sex. I survived the AIDS epidemic of the 80’s, 90’s, and 2000’s because of my medical understanding and use of condoms. My decision to be part of the PrEP regimen was and still is, in no way a license for additional risky and/or promiscuous behavior because “I’m on PrEP”. I’ve never considered the above scenario (“If a guy is on Prep (sic), I look elsewhere…”)… Read more »
If you agreed to condoms and Mr. Hookup is changing his tune last minute, he’s the fool and if you don’t send him packing you are too. You can’t count on him being in PReP, testing negative, or anything else he says. You didn’t ruin the moment. He did. Or you’re naked, well into foreplay and have not discussed whose on PReP or not, or if condoms will be used or not…who’s the fool? No moment is worth a lifetime of HIV or any STD. Stay home and masturbate until you’re ready and able to be an adult about sex,… Read more »
One time, a guy had me to his place and went down on me. As a rule then and now, I won’t suck guys who pre-cum and he was oozing all over the place, so I just licked around his shaft & balls. He noticed and when I made clear I wouldn’t suck him, he threw me out. All for the best of course. Similar thing happened years earlier and when the other guy noticed I wouldn’t suck him too, he said “gotta share the risk.” As soon as he uttered “risk,” that was it for me and I left.
Oh, my God, man! The narcissistic behaviors are just scary as hell!
If my going the extra mile to be totally SAFE is “scary narcissistic behavior” then so be it.
Not you, the one who threw you out, because he wanted nothing to do with safe sex, apparently.
You kick him out the door. Prep is not 100% effective, nor does it prevent other stds. One should probably not bottom for anyone you haven’t gotten to know.
Agreed.
doxyPEP is prescribed along with PrEP. Since you are uniformed about it, ask your PCP at your next appointment.
We have to blame pornography for this behavioral epidemic. When they gave up condom use for the sake of more profit, they sold out the population, and should be in prison for it. Young people now have grown up exposed to pornography, and gained all their ideas about sex from it. What a horrible thought. Pornography really should be shut down completely.
That’s awfully judgmental. Don’t like porn? Don’t look at it. We don’t need men going around trying to police the actions of other men.
Porn didn’t being 20 or 30 or 40 years ago. It has been around practically forever and trying to extinguish it would be as effective as Prohibition.
You seem to be extremely familiar with the industry you want shut down. How much porn is on your hard drive?
Prison? Maybe your name should be Sister Bertrille.
Thus far, most of the comments seem somewhat intolerant of different perspectives and throwing shade on those who have made the decision to have bb sex. To imply those individuals are irresponsible and careless might be short-sighted. All sexual acts carry risks. None are risk-free, including when using a condom. We all have some level of Risk Tolerance. Some guys tolerance is high, while others may be low. Regardless of your tolerance level, respect others decisions and avoid holier-than-thou attitudes. As has been implied by all, just hookup with those with similar risk tolerances. Personally, I went on PrEP four… Read more »
Guys you describe as “intolerant” are “comfortable”, too.
Finally, the first well-balanced, thoughtful comment I’ve seen on this topic. The two most important points you made said it all … 1) A guy who’s concerned about this problem, and yes it is one, should stick to guys with similar risk tolerances … especially when guys fall into the irresponsible camp … then no one’s getting forced to do or not do anything they prefer to do, the moral dilemma is solved, no one’s put at risk they aren’t comfortable with, and no one’s giving up their au natural holepunching hobby, all’s good ♂️ … Including all the porn… Read more »
and who pays for those ‘Free Clinics’ that treat all the various STDs and parasites that accumulate from raw dogging? not you and your free riding sponges for sure.
The same people who pay for the free health care provided to those who smoke and develop cancer or COPD or other smoking-related conditions. The same people who pay for free health care for those who eat a poor diet, overeat and develop diabetes, hypertension, a myriad of other obesity-related conditions. The same people who pay for free rehab programs for those who become addicted to drugs or alcohol. The same people who pay for free overall health care for those who cannot afford it or get health insurance any other way through Medicaid. The same people who pay for… Read more »
“To each is his own,” but you know what, this is actually tantamount to “black on black” shooting each to death, sounds harsh, but the truth of the matter is, it has its parallels . . .
I am black and obviously gay, just sayin’. And I could care less about thumbs down and why, it’s just the truth from a “minority” point of view; of which, I am both minorities, I just hate this.
Question – is there a greater risk to bareback sex than there is in swallowing cum?
Yes. Medically speaking according to doctors, you have to have an open sore in your mouth for you to have a good chance of catching anything via swallowing cum. The medical professionals mentioned something about the mouth’s acidity levels and other factors. Whereas Anal sex is much more possible to catch something due to the fact that the anus is technically not meant to handle the kind of action that sex brings. The anus has natural lubricants to help expel waste out; it isn’t meant to have something inserted on purpose and move back and forth. Micro tears happen much… Read more »
HPVs in the oral cavities don’t need an open sore to develop. It’s why oral cancers are on the uptake. No thanks
Michael Douglas ‘purportedly’ contracted some sort of oral or throat cancer, from oral sex, with his or wives, if, I’m remembering this correctly, but yeah, it is happening.
OK,thanks.
Personally, I’m not willing to trust it specifically because people see it as a golden pass to raw play. If I am chatting with someone, and they mentioned prep, I block them right away. Simply put, undetectable does not mean non-ransmittable. Prep simply reduces the chance of transmission to a very low percentage. And it’s for one potential disease, no where near a golden pass!
Undetectable does indeed mean not transmissible. A study was done involving actual serodiscordant longterm couples who engaged in bareback sex. Ethics would not allow scientists to get volunteers to do this deliberately. In any event, no undetectable partner was able to infect the negative partner. In two cases where the negative partner developed HIV, the strain was different from the what one who was undetectable had originally had, and it was determined the person had gotten it from an untested outsider. While you are quite right to say that HIV negative status, be it undetectable or under prophylaxis, has no… Read more »
And just to add further clarification, guys on prep are NOT positive, therefore they aren’t considered undetectable. The term is used for guys with undetectable levels of HIV in their blood (like me). If I stop taking my meds, it will come out of hiding and then I can then spread it again as well as allowing the disease to progress. I caught it so early that my CD4 count was barely affected. I can assure you though that my viral load was VERY high. I can also tell you that getting that positive diagnosis was one of the worst… Read more »
Yeah, your statement is entirely false. Medical science has proven that if you are Undetectable you are Untransmissible (U=U) as long as you are taking your medication regularly. Also Prep doesn’t reduce the chance of transmission to another partner, it reduces the chance of you catching it. However, I will agree that it is absolutely NOT a golden pass. It is meant to be a mind reliever for the modern dilemma. In an age where most STI are easily treatable with a simple round of pills, the scariest STI for most thanks to the 80’s is still HIV and just… Read more »
believe all you want. there are STI strains that are non-responsive for AB therapies. Toss the big guns and then worry about ligament damage. All because of a quickie from an anon hookup. Stupid much?
Judgemental much? The strains you speak of are so statistically small that you have a better chance of being hit by a bus, even if you’re a slut.
ok boomer
Are you really going to start bashing guys on PrEP?
Heat of the moment? Not an excuse. That’s how straight people have a lot of their children.
I’m on PrEP & doxy PEP. I state upfront my expectations. It’s your body, take control of it.
Stop whining like a bitch, what someone wants to do with your body is not more important than your choice.
Doxy does not protect against herpes and warts. In my opinion prep has given people a way to justify irresponsible behavior. The problem is that guys like myself don’t stand a chance anymore as I will never bareback. I had an encounter many years ago, in which the guy took the condom off without my knowledge. I ended up with warts. It took 2 years to get rid of the warts. It was awful. Let me guess, I picked the wrong guy who was dirty…no
Be glad that you only got warts (HPV) and not HIV like me from the same thing. I had another guy stealth me some years ago, but I got lucky that time.
Not a difficult question at all… what happens? Were both consenting adults.. therefore NOTHING happens if we’re not in full agreement. It’s quite simple. Know your boundaries, be an adult, assert your wishes, part ways if in disagreement.
PrEP is not as effective as its manufacturer claims, the same way “undetectable” is only in blood, not other secretions. If someone refuses to use condoms, kick them to the curb, PERIOD.
Guys on PrEP see a medical professional 6 times a year, get tested, and get an injection to protect themselves and their sex parters. A Rx for doxy PEP is pretty much the standard add on. My MD at Northwestern thinks that’s a good combination. Think I’m gonna go with her advice.
You should make that “four to six times a year.” The standard for guys on Truvada/Descovy is quarterly testing.
I just don’t like putting chemicals and shit in my body, the less, the better.
What do you know? Everything that I have read and my doctor at Duke ALL say that it suppresses the virus in every bodily fluid. I even specifically asked about blood when I got the diagnosis and started treatment. As long as I continue to take my meds on time every day (which I do) and avoid anything that interacts with it (which I do) I will not spread it to anyone with any bodily fluid. My viral load is so low that the machines routinely detect nothing. Yes, I still have antibodies and always will, so I will usually… Read more »
How often to guys that demand condoms get tested? Guys on PrEP are on a regular schedule of hiv prevention. If you’re asked when your last STI check was, can you say less than 8 weeks ago? The asshole percentage of guys on PrEP isn’t any higher than guys who aren’t. #stopprepbashing
That has been my experience as well. People on Prep have the documentation readily available that shows when they were last tested as they need the testing for their doctor’s to continue prescribing. I have known quite a few guys that only use condoms and have never felt the need to get tested because they are “safe” and only use condoms.
CLICK MY HEELS……….
SAY HALLEYOUYAH……
AND FUCK THE HELL OUT OF HIM………..
I am 100% versatile. I personally love the idea of raw sex. It might be psychological, but to me the idea of raw sex leaves a more intimate feeling; whether that means topping a man without a barrier or receiving his seed. However, that doesn’t mean that I am going to deny my partner the right to utilize a condom if that is what they are comfortable with. Just because I have a preference, doesn’t mean that should make the other partner feel pressured or stressed about hooking up. That takes away the intimacy aspect entirely. I always try to… Read more »
I respect the choices of my partner, and additionally, verify a PrEP script. I have mine in my wallet. It’s not a perfect system. They want to fuck me with a condom? Fine. Me fuck them with a condom? Fine. Toss them because we’re both on PrEP? Fine– and my preference. The STI tests can be easily forged by a non-PrEP user. It’s for this reason that I look for adherence to PrEP or HIV meds. Lacking either, I have fresh condoms available. I know the long list of meds for those who are poz; I ask to see their… Read more »
Love that strange dick, eh bottom boi? And how is that liver function? Liver failure is soooo much better than always using condoms
Hey Vlad, do you ever have anything constructive to actually help either side of a conversation? I have yet to see any of your comments on here that are helpful, proactive, or aren’t rude.
There seems to be much discussion here about the partner being on PrEP. I think what’s missing is the question of why a guy would rely on someone else to keep himself safe. Men lie, whether it is about being on PrEP, having tested negative yesterday, etc…. PrEP is very, very effective, but only when you take it yourself. Take responsibility for your health, whether it is by using a condom or taking PrEP. Don’t rely on the other guy.
I’m a versatile top, who mostly tops by default as I’ve gotten older. As a top, I bareback naturally. Have not used a condom in a few years because I will lose my erection often due to lack of sensation. And there are a multitude of bttms who prefer bareback. Throughout the early and mid 1990s, I became celibate due to the AIDS epidemic. By the late 90s I became active again and was 100% versatile. I ensured my tops used condoms at the time and I used them as a top sometimes. I recently used prep, but felt I… Read more »
so who pays for the STI and HIV treatments? think that high taxes and insurance costs are due in no small regard to those that cavalierly bareback and live in The Scene? or doesn’t that matter to a self-absorbed boomer like yourself?
LOL one day you’re going to be the equivalent of a boomer, sir. While your concerns are valid in your context, the context of others doesn’t necessarily have the same values, for better and worse. Guys are going to fuck. It’s who they are. You can join them, use condoms, or not. The consequences are up to you and your standards. I thank the heavens for PrEP. I can be the queer promiscuous cum-loving guy that I am. You be you. The least reckless for you, is not the least reckless for others. Let others be safe as much as… Read more »
And this is why we hate boomers. My taxes support their choices. Or do you pay all your STIs out of pocket in Mexico? Didn’t think so
You do realize Vlad that it is mostly “Boomers” that use condoms right? They are the ones that fought for every freedom that any one in the alphabet brigade (LGBTQ+) originally had and laid the foundation for the rest of us “Non-Boomers.” Please stop bashing on an entire generation when you disagree with one person. Also, have you ever heard of insurance? If you actually have a job that offers insurance and you are paying for 50%-75% of that insurance with the company paying the rest, it isn’t any of your tax dollars paying for anything.
Let’s not forget Tam that the gay population is only 10% of the human population while the rest of the people that are not using condoms are the 90% straight group? Where are you really going with your argument?
It doesn’t happen.
I hate to say it, but we see it in politics with a certain criminal former occupant of the White House … people lie, and they can lie so frequently and so easily that it becomes their delusional truth. Just because someone says they are on PrEP, does not mean they really are. Just because they say they had a recent test and are clean, does not mean they really did. People will say and do what they think someone else wants to hear to manipulate them. So unless you have intimate knowledge of the person you are with, and… Read more »
Same for the “on the brink of criminal prosecution” current occupant of the White House. “Our economy is the best in the world. Employment is strong. Inflation is under control. We’re respected across the globe. The border is secure. I’m absolutely fit for the the next Presidential term,”
Lying is easy for many politicians, a trap really. Once they do it often, it becomes difficult to be truthful when pressed
As of this week, over 70% of registered voters question his fitness for office. His own Party is in turmoil and disagreement over how to proceed.
The US economy is currently the strongest in the world. Our employment numbers are absolutely very strong and stringer than they have been in a very long time. Inflation is stable currently, even though higher than preferable. NOBODY says the border is secure, because it’s not and the convicted felon former President did nothing to secure the border in his four years in office (never built a real wall or had Mexico pay for it) and between the two the current President is absolutely more fit seeing that he is an empathetic and demonstrably stronger leader who has restored our… Read more »
That’s all the far Left mantra not supported by facts. And not reflected in polls conducted this week by reputable organizations. Why have housing costs skyrocketed? Why is energy so much more expensive? Why are interest rates the highest in decades? Why have the costs for groceries climbed? Why have the costs for home and auto insurance jumped? Why are record numbers of illegal immigrants (with drugs and crime) coming across the Southern border and now the Northern border as well? Why are there more wars now than in decades? Why can’t the US force closures to them as it… Read more »
Actually it is ALL supported by facts.You clearly don’t understand economics…I urge you to read a book or educate yourself. So illegal immigrants are Biden’s problem? the Convicted Felon did nothing to address it…guess you missed that point in my first comment. There are NOT more wars now…read a history book jeez….I can go point for point but it is obvious you are brainwashed…a self hating gay who supports trump and the party that wishes to outlaw you. Now I’ve seen it all. Cognitive failures of Biden? Have you ever listened to the Convicted Felon speak…it’s a word salad of… Read more »
I urge you to brave enough to remove the political binders and read what a broad range of media sites are reporting about the state of the country, including what Democratic leaders are quoting in the media.
It is obvious you are brainwashed by a one-sided political agenda that fuels its believers with Trump Hate and demands any thought not in its misguided lock step must be silenced through hate and insults. Your choice to do so. A Constitutional Right. Reality is, such action is heading the Democrats are on their way to losing the White House.
There are no such things as Viruses that cause illness. Germ / Contagion Theory is psyop. Poisons are the true root cause to most illnesses. Terrain Theory is closer to the truth of nature and health. https://cutt.ly/D3TNw2v YES you have been fooled, can be fooled and most likely will be fooled again. Because you DON’T Know what the Scientific Method is and how to read the lab studies they claim show there are such things as viruses. If you did you would see what Thousands upon thousands of real scientist who do not conform to corporate control KNOW! Germ Theory… Read more »
And, your medical degree is from which leading medical school?
Obviously Trump University.
I don’t get sick or infected. I do not let propaganda based on known lies convince me to wear rubber (a poison) coated with spermicide (also a poison). So, when their biome goes to heal and remove the dead flesh in the rubbed raw area. It facilitates an infection of gonorrhea or chlamydia because the biome that keeps those bacteria in check are gone, because my bottom has killed off their gut biome by eating foods with pesticides in their food or drink water with fluoride and chlorine in it. This article shows the level of ignorance in the everyday… Read more »
Just admit you have no fucking clue what you’re talking about.
no condom no sex for me
I’m in my 60s so I remember when Aids was first discovered, and I must agree that condoms have saved millions of lives and probably mine. I personally require the use of a condom for anal sex. I also applaud the use of PrEP. However, PrEP doesn’t give a person a free pass. Is the person really on PrEP or just saying that to get bareback sex? Have they taken their medication as prescribed, also some things can interfere with some medications making them ineffective. I also have a concern about the HIV U=U status. If the person stops taking… Read more »
BINGO!
They always say tested “recently.” That could mean 4 days ago or 4 months ago. Of course, we understand that ultimate pleasure comes from raw sex, but if not comfortable with that, don’t do it. That plan has kept you negative. It’s a good plan.
I couldn’t agree more!
What happens when a hookup refuses to use a condom? I say: “Goodbye”.
same here! haha
That’s absolutely your right. Good for your for exercising it. Although, I’m just the opposite and BB only. Condoms have always killed my erections. If a guy insists on a condom, then we’re not a match. I never try to change the other guy’s mind, and I prefer that he not try to change mine.
I’ve been having sex with other men since my late teens, and in that time I’ve had sex literally with hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of men. And I’m a total bottom. In a condom is a must for me. If I’m involved with someone in a relationship and we’re both committed to each other I love bareback, but if I’m hooking up with somebody or out of a bath house, I always have the top wear a condom. Never even caught a cold.