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What do you think about spanking, guys? Do you find it hot or not? Why or why not?
According to Nichi Hodgson, sex expert and former dominatrix, a spanking fetish is quite common, and is often linked to one’s childhood experiences.
Hodgson observed that adults who have been spanked as a child are more likely to enjoy spanking as adults. While childhood spankings may not have been perceived as erotic, as people age, their perceptions evolve, and the discomfort associated with childhood spankings may transform into an erotic sensation. This shift in perception could be seen as a form of coping mechanism. Further, Hodgson also noted that there are “a lot of nerves in the butt and anus,” thus making spanking popular to others. Read more here.
As for techniques, well, one can opt for a more straightforward option, which is the bare-handed spanking. This is as opposed to the other that requires additional tools as some people find enjoyment in using “switches, belts, floggers, paddles, wooden spoons, and hairbrushes. The choice also depends on the kind of interaction between the spanker and spankee, whether it’s a friendly slap in bed during a sexual romp or formally bending a partner over a chair.”
But why do people enjoy spanking?
Nikita Fernandes, M.A., M.H.C.-L.P., a sex psychotherapist based in New York City, explained:
Spanking can perpetuate a power dynamic where the person doing the spanking is holding the power at a given moment. This power exchange can make the kink very alluring to people who might hold power in other areas of their life and are looking to let go of control and be spanked.
For the person giving the spanking, the fetish can be rooted in control of holding the power and authority to spank someone. It’s important to note that spanking is a power exchange, because someone is offering power and someone is taking hold of that power.
Read more about this here.
Having said all that, do you like getting spanked, guys? Perhaps, you enjoy spanking someone instead of being on the receiving end? Do you prefer a firm or gentle spanking? Do you use your hand or a paddle? And what do you like about it? And is the spanking made during sex or is it just that – spanking? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!
Hot or Not?
For me NOT.
I guess if you’re into kink, bondage, etc. it’s part of the erotic process.
It can be either depending upon what you’re into. Really not a question with much substance. It’s like flipping a coin.
Spanking? Not hot for me at all. Not into pain. But some guys are.
A slap (a little sting but no pain per se) now and then is playful. I’m sometimes moved to give one; happy to receive one.
Spanking is another tool in the sexual tool box. All’s good if the participants are into it.
Hunter0500:
Need I remind you?
“From Pain – Comes Pleasure”!
Uh, no. Not for this guy. But I respect that others are wired for that.
Hunter0500:
Surely, somewhere, deep within the crevasse of your Soul –
there might be an iota of curiosity and compliance?
Not a gram.
But I’m a reasonable guy. And I do like to add tools to my toolbox, should an exceptional gentleman come along that might somehow peek the curiosity, we could do some exploration.
See, Hunter0500:
The “Possibility” exists!
If the awesome gentleman comes along, one that gets under my skin (only 2 have…ever), should he broach the concept I’d consider it. Possibility 1%, I’d say.
1%/100%?
a slight possibility but nil probability!
Where there is even a 1%, there is always hope!
There are only two tremendous gentlemen who have Top access to me. Guys who want to spank me better be a cut above them. If either of the two want bring up the issue of spanking (doubt it as we’ve known each other of a decade), they’re going to have to let spanking be a two-way street.
It’s just a form of foreplay, mostly, I guess. I’ve never heard of anyone actually cuming from receiving a spanking, just fun rough housing which I love, personally. I love leather bars, kink, raunch, power exchanges and shit like that, but only to a point, I have my limits. I love it, in terms of flirtation, though, walking up to someone; whom the both of you have been checking each other out and then that gesture, as an “I want you” then, TOTALLY, especially when he whispers “hey” and you can feel his breathe on your neck, lmao! I would… Read more »
Lamar:
“Sasquatch”
has –
really, really, really large hands!
“One Good Beating – Deserves Another”!
Actually –
“Two Good Beatings – Deserve Four”!
No. Try it and you’ll be picking your teeth, or dentures, up off the floor.
How about the “Hemorrhoids”?
I name them all Kasper or Hennepin.
Hot for me to get spanked by the guy when I’m giving a bj. Watching gay spanking porn is a turn on for me!
I enjoy spanking women,, not really hard but just enough,,, I tend to fuck women the way I like to be fucked,,,and when we’re together I do all the things I enjoy when I’m in their position,,I talk to them while I’m ass fuckn them, I let them know how good the ass is ,,l like for my top to let me know he’s the man,, so it would be ok for him to tap me on my ass while he’s behind me with that dick,,it’s something about a dominant top,,
I enjoy an erotic spanking on occasion. Barehanded…no bruising or markings but a crimson red making my cheeks warm feels good.
I love to be spanked by hands, mostly, something about it gets me extremely hot and hard
Depends. Sometimes when I’m topping a guy doggy, I like to slap both his cheeks, not necessarily as part of some fetish; just sometimes seems to be ‘part of the event’ so to speak. If I’m getting rammed, I’d be open to getting spanked, though I can’t say anyone’s ever spanked me before. What I find to be “Not,” is the extreme form, like with a paddle or something. Way too weird & there’s no place for pain in my sexual activities.
I mean…. spanking me with His Dick is always fun… across my mouth, and face, and spanking my ass.
Technically I guess we’ve entered *slapping*, but who am I to argue?
And, yes…Women do seem to enjoy spanking. I think it sends a jolt into their funbox.
Good times, and to each their own!
Lmao, yeah, I use to wrestle; pin my ex flat on his back-my knees on inner elbows, slapping him across the face with my dick, ‘we’ loved it!
I enjoy it when a guy pull his dick from my mouth and slap it across my face and lips,, the hold my chin with one hand and feed that dick between my lips,,, that to me shows dominance,, and I love a dominant top,,,a dominant top makes me feel like I’m his bitch,, big turn on for me
NOT. It’s violence. It’s painful.
Look at the bright side, Padre –
A little “Violence” goes a long way –
and
what doesn’t kill you –
makes
you stronger!
Hell hath frozen over. I agree with Mother Hennepin for like the first time ever.
Obviously, Eric –
you did not attend –
“Catholic Schools”?
very very hot OTK in panties pulled down warm red cheeks then ordered to please his hard cock from my knees to start
I really enjoy it, but only in a particular way – a slow buidup as part of a “scene” – coach/athlete, boss/employee. Love to start off across the lap, swats on the seat of the pants, then the pants come down, more swats on the seat of the shorts, then the shorts join the pants around the ankles, or ripped open in back (only by prior arrangement, of course) with steadily increasing hand spanking until the ass is nice and red and warm – maybe some paddle or belt… then be “excused” from the spanking in exchange for a blow… Read more »
A man with a plan. (applause)
Who dolls out pain! (Standing Ovation)
Not, had enuf of that in my formative years