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Winter blues or holiday horniness: what’s your experience?
A gay man on Reddit posed a playful yet relatable question: “Is it me, or do you get so much hornier at this time of year? Fuck, I’m fantasizing about every hot guy I see! xoxo.” The responses were as varied as the queer community itself, ranging from humorous to heartfelt reflections on loneliness and stress that some gay men feel during this time of year. Let’s take a look into what people are saying and see if there’s any science behind this seasonal spike—or slump—in libido.
One gay man quipped, “Hoe hoe hoe merry XXXmas.” To which another gay man responded, “Hahahaha and a very very horny Christmas to you too!!!” This playful exchange captures the lighthearted side of the holiday season. There’s something about twinkling lights, cozy sweaters, and festive cheer that puts people in a flirtatious mood. Don’t you think so, too?
Meantime, another gay man said, “This time of year always makes me more depressed.” A gay man replied to him, “Aw I‘m sorry if that was not a joke.” He then responded, “Haha it’s OK. The queer experience isn’t the same for everyone, and that’s OK. I appreciate you reaching out lol.”
Holidays can be a double-edged sword. While some feel the festive spirit, others face heightened feelings of isolation or stress. For many queer people, being around unsupportive family or feeling disconnected from their chosen family can dampen the mood.
In addition, one guy said, “Yes! It’s the season of giving. I want to give to all the hot guys. Ho ho ho!!” A gay man responded to that comment with, “Have a lovely season of giving (head).” The original commenter replied, “Mmmmm. Hopefully they are happy with my gift, and they also have a nice big present for me.”
Nothing says holiday spirit like the gift of… well, giving! This playful banter highlights the joy of mutual attraction and the fun side of gay hookup culture.
Meanwhile, a gay man confessed, “Lol, I’m always horny, no matter the season.”
It’s a straightforward response—some people are just naturally more lustful all year-round and he’s not alone in this regard. “I’m not hornier. I’m always horny. But I am definitely feeling lonelier than usual,” one guy agreed, to which another responded, “Could be the stress of being around family.”
Holidays bring their share of emotional baggage, and loneliness can heighten during this time of year, even for those who feel sexually energized.
On the other hand, someone said, “I get much LESS horny this time of year, in the winter. I’m MUCH hornier in the warmer months.” This sentiment points to how seasons affect libido. Warmer weather often correlates with higher testosterone levels and more skin exposure, which could explain why some people feel friskier during summer.
Meanwhile, the holiday season and winter months often bring a mix of emotional and physical triggers that can increase feelings of arousal for some people. Colder temperatures encourage physical closeness and cuddling, which can boost oxytocin levels—the “bonding hormone”—and spark intimacy. Additionally, the festive atmosphere, with its focus on love and togetherness, can heighten romantic or sexual desires. For others, seasonal changes in daylight can impact serotonin and melatonin levels, potentially influencing mood and libido. Coupled with time off work and celebratory indulgence, it’s no wonder winter can bring about heightened sexual energy.
What about you, Adam4Adam readers? How does the holiday season affect your mood—and libido? Are you someone who embraces the “season of giving” or finds yourself feeling less sexy and more introspective?
Interestingly, research suggests that colder months can increase feelings of loneliness for some due to reduced sunlight and more time indoors. On the flip side, the holiday season also offers more opportunities for intimate gatherings, which might explain why others feel a boost in sexual energy.
Having said all that, how do holidays impact your desires, and how do you handle it? Let us know in the comments section below.
I am always horny it doesn’t matter what time of year or day it is it’s all I think about
All I want for Christmas is to stop being called queer. It’s a political statement a lot of us want nothing to do with.
hate the words queer and faggot even if its in a passionate or heated moment
I want to know when being called queer went from a derogatory hateful term to a good thing????
I agree queer is not a good word it’
s unusual . To many gays to be unusual.
yo, either it’s queer or breeder? we all get branded
I guess I’ve been on the naughty list for a while , now this is not anything I’m proud of. I’m married and I love my wife (woman). Although I’ve excepted the fact that I am bi/gay, l still love sex with women, but I also enjoy being a bottom for dominant top men , I have a man I’ve been seeing for a while now, sometimes he may text to see me and we’ll be having a movie night, I will pretend I need to go solve a problem at my job, I know naughty right ? Just to… Read more »
Some day God and I will have a conversation. I’ll die; it’s a given. “Was my being Gay an issue?” I don’t think it will be as he “created all of us in his image” or so it’s said. Sex was to create more like Him BUT no where are He or Jesus ever quoted as “no getting off with your male buddies”. “Believers” will say “The Apostles (or those like Leviticus) said no and “we all know they are the ‘voice of God’.” “We” being those humans who have forced their beliefs on others for centuries. Nothing God or… Read more »
i. agree with u on that its like every time my sister bf came over i wanted to. fuck him
The bi struggle is real
Yes it is very real
Does it not matter as to which type of Naughty you are being LOL
As a single working guy having some fowntime during the holidays makes me extremely eager for hot passionate meetings for sure
Spending my holiday being a big fuckin HO HO HO!!
I’m quite lonely most all year long, but always horny. Don’t meet many men.
Can totally relate.
Horny early every morning!! Have to say I’m naughty and nice!!! Two of my fuck buddies I met on here keep me naughty!!!
It’s Christmas Eve, and I know many of us are at home with family and friends or either out visiting family and friends , probably with the wife, doing this or doing that , (myself), doing what a man suppose to be doing on Christmas Eve with his family,,, but is it just me or is it anyone else getting a text from your top asking you to come suck his dick or bring him some ass, and you wanting that dick yourself and you’re so hot in the ass but can’t go get it because you and the wife… Read more »
I guess being single & alone since Sept. 1999 keeps me on the “nice list”.