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Let’s face it: vanilla sex doesn’t cut it for everyone. For some gay men, pleasure comes with an edge—bondage, power play, feet, leather, voyeurism, or fantasies that break the mold. These aren’t just quirks; they’re the real passions that fuel desire.
That’s why when a guy posted online, “Guys, drop your kinks here!!!” the replies lit up like wildfire. He continued:
“A kink is a broad term referring to unconventional sexual preferences, fantasies, or behaviors that deviate from ‘vanilla’ (mainstream) sex. Like spanking, bondage, or role-play, dominance/submission (D/s) or power exchange. Object-based arousal—fetishes involving feet, leather, latex, etc. Situational preferences: like public play, exhibitionism, voyeurism.”
Some of the replies were funny, shocking, vulnerable, and undeniably real. For other gay men, kinks are core to their sexuality. For quite a few, it’s something they explore in fantasy or on weekends. But what binds them all is a sense of freedom—of desire unconstrained by convention.
One commenter went straight for the extreme, unapologetically declaring: “Getting my fist and my dick up a guy’s ass at the same time.” Whether you’re into it or not, the boldness is admirable—and an honest window into how some gay men push physical and psychological boundaries to new limits.
Others leaned toward narrative and emotional kinks. One gay man shared, “I dated a guy and he would play out noncon scenarios with me. Even sometimes tie me up or handcuff me. It was pretty hot and still gets me horny to think about.” The key here is trust—non-consensual roleplay demands consent, negotiation, and aftercare, but for many, it unlocks something primal.
Another gay man shared a more sensual fetish, “Smells. Armpits sure but a guy’s breath, the way his hair or lower back, ass or dick smells. If I am into a guy I could smell him for hours.” This comment resonated with many. There’s something raw and intimate about scents, especially when you’re really into someone—it makes the encounter uniquely carnal.
Some described entire sexual blueprints. One man wrote, “I love verbal guys, dominant men, breeding, cockwarming, size difference, worshipping muscle, rimming. Oh well, the idea of all of it anyway—would love to find a man who would do all that with me.” This comment reads like a personal fantasy map, showcasing how multi-layered kink can be—combining body types, dynamics, and erotic acts into one tailored experience.
Underwear, often the gateway kink, came up too. One guy revealed, “Underwear (probably 50 thongs and jockstraps and 50 bikini slips), getting oiled and slippery. And after being bred, feeling in my wide open hole the wetness of his dripping cum. Also, wearing tiny swimwear near the swimming pool and enjoy people looking at me.” The mix of exhibitionism, gear fetish, and cum play here reveals how kinks often overlap, and that’s okay.
Breeding kinks, unsurprisingly, appeared in may gay men’s fantasies. One popular reply noted, “Often, I see guys wanting to breed a guy who has been freshly bred.” The image is primal, taboo, and for many, incredibly arousing. It plays into themes of dominance, masculinity, and ritual—a repetition of desire and ownership.
Physical dominance came up again in another response, “Play fighting, grappling, rolling around, wrestling for domination/submission, controlling/being controlled through grappling, forcing/being forced to shoot, men’s/sporty underwear, fight wear, massage.” The blur between aggression and affection, play and domination, is something many gay men find thrilling—especially when combined with sports gear and tactile closeness.
In all these stories, one thing becomes clear: kink is not a deviation. It’s expression. Sometimes raw, sometimes theatrical, often surprising—but always human.
So, what about you, Adam4Adam blog readers? What’s your kink—and when did you realize it turned you on? Have you explored it, or is it still a fantasy tucked away in your head—or browser history? Have you ever found someone who understood and fulfilled your desire, or are you still searching for that perfect, kinky match? What turns you on in ways even you don’t always understand? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section down below!
I’m into most anything except scat or blood, depending on what the guy wants. I’ve dressed up for men, done outdoors, tied up. It’s all fun and brings out the excitement in me as a bottom. No pain ascwell
Giving a good spanking tops my list…Gets me into a daddy mindset. Of course then Daddy likes to kiss it, make it feel better… then breed it.
I’m also heavy into redheads. .. I think I have some kund of life- threatening ginger deficiency! The bottom side of me is always looking for gingwr donors to infuse me with their cum, and the top side of me loves ginger asses….hairy ones…. the slight musk, the hairy taint… the burning bush of public hair… it’s all a religious experience for me!
I used to be ginger- in my younger days. I’d let you do me!!!
Hot
spanking can be hot.
My so-called kinks are probably too G-rated for this, but here goes: I am a passionate rimmer. I don’t lick; I DIG in as deeply as possible. My tongue becomes a sword in there. If I weren’t so opposed to BB fucking, I’d definitely love to rim a guy after he’s been bred, slosh out that fresh cum in there with my whole face. My other G-rated kink is a fantasy: I want to be in the middle of a train fuck – never done it.
Ever tasted a prostate? That’s another fantasy!
Um – no. How does one go about tasting a prostate?
Gang banged! A team of guys taking turns on me anal, oral
Hell yes
This is interesting subject. I am “vanilla” guy, where touch, kisses and strong hugs take shape during sexual interaction. Eye contact, breath and perspiration fulfill the moment to the finish line. As I am aging sexual quality overlap kinky, in my humble opinion, naturally! An example of “vanilla” I enjoy watching porn actor Rocco Steel, when he is performing WITHOUT kink, his emotions, seduction and masculinity is the definition of passion in my world. I have a follow in A4A and we have great chitchat and look like we know each forever BUT he is full “moon” of fantasies and… Read more »
Nothing my FWBs and I do during sex qualifies as kink. As much body contact as possible. I’m very “hands on” so the more contact between body parts the better. For me, role playing, toys, equipment, etc, are distractions.
I’m glad, of course, that sex comes with almost unlimited boundaries for individuals who enjoy pursuing them. Anything the participants want to try or do regularly is up to them.
Muscles and nipples turned me on. I guess you could say they’re my kink what a masculine man licks and sucks my nipples. I gove into whatever he wants.
Muscles and nipples turn me on. I guess you could say they’re my kink what a masculine man licks and sucks my nipples. I gove into whatever he wants.
how about a human spigot flowing with organic lemonade?
Pissplay is the best love spraying each other thrn getting just plain down and dirty
A pretty vanilla kink, but the thing that most turns me on is fucking a boi (or receiving head from him) in his own bed. Even hotter is if the bed is a twin-size with white sheets. Something very cozy and innocent about that.
Most of my encounters are vanilla, but I went to a Dom many years ago who tied me up and had his way with me. Three sessions with him was my introduction to BDSM (it would have been more but he moved out of state). The excitement of being tied up and willingly give control to someone else was incredible. Of course the corporal punishment and forced sex acts were also a huge turn on. I hope I can experience something like that again!
I am into big, shaved balls, especially low hangers! I just love licking and sucking on them.
Not too much pain; scent, not odor; safe word sex (wrestling or doming) yeah, yeah love a little kink-fetish play as foreplay, love clean well taken care of bigger-wider feet.
I’m into a lot of stuff but if you want me to be a sex slave, get to my nipples. Like I could be fighting a guy off of me and if his mouth gets to my nipples, I’m done. I can’t move. Whatever he wants, I’ll do. At that point I just want to be pinned down and taken repeatedly. No making love, just pure animalistic sex.
love the script!
Nothing hotter than totally and completely submitting to a dominant big dicked man of color or men of color and him/them being Cumpletely in charged. not talking each having a turn not one and done each, but one and then repeat, and repeat again until everyone is done in and it is time to rest before round two
Common enough, given of course, the socioeconomics of the two, nothing new there. In fact, every time I see a biracial couple, I know that most times, “who’s the bottom” and it ”usually” not “the black guy” lmao.
That is true, but for me, I don’t enjoy sexually being with a white man. I feel much more comfortable being with a man of color. it is just how I am. I do have black friends who i don’t have a sexual relationship with. And I am not afraid to be seen in public, but many white guys sneak around, where as a white is ok being seen in public with another white guy who is fucking him. Also usually if you see a B&w m/f couple, usually the male is Black and the female white. for ir Asian… Read more »
Being married and a closet bottom, I gotta be a dominant and a alpha male all the time, So when I’m in private behind closed doors with a top, preferably a dominant/alpha top, I like to be submissive and I like to slutted out , sucking his dick having his cum down my throat and shot in my face and sometimes smeared with his dick, I like to be fucked sometimes nice and slow, ( made love love to) and sometimes I like to be fuck like If he was trying to break me, then leave his warm cum inside… Read more »
True Confessions!
Very common, actually; men you don’t expect, because of one’s own narrow thinking, very capable or men in dominant roles in home/or work life do quite frequently, love to experience the opposite, loss of control over themselves.
I’m a 100% bottom, I’ve never had a desire to top, when I with a man, I like for him to be the man, I kinda like to leave my manhood outside of the door, my wife and I still have amazing sex when we have it, and she caters to my sexual needs, she’s very submissive to me, And that drives me crazy, I love her for that, but at the same time I thinking, that’s the way I want to be with a man, just be a good submissive bottom, not have to hard or in charge, just… Read more »
Love the idea of being blindfolded when two guys arrive. they begin to rip off my clothing together, Then one begins to suck me while the other spanks my cheeks. As it gets hotter, I am soft restrained to the bed and the two individuals jack/suck/massage this body, Being sucked by one and eaten by the other has me writhing in ecstacy until I blow my load. A little down time to rise again and we do it again. We can all shower together and then watch our play in the bathroom mirror. Wow. I’m getting excited just thinking about… Read more »
It turns me on to no end when I call my man daddy, service him, get spanked by him, be used by him and I’m just there for his needs. Feel him cum where he wants and just use my body for his own enjoyment. Nipple play, dominance, bdsm, it’s all in there and a part of it
ME LIKEY!
Among my kinks is seeing a guy, especially a hairy one, wearing tightey-whiteys. BVDs, FOTLs, Staffords or Hanes white briefs with hair sticking out of elastic band and legs creates excitement like no other underwear. I guess the image of my high school classmates, including those I had crushes on, stripping down to them in the locker room back in the ’60s sealed my fixation. Today I almost never see them. Bring them back, I say.
Hi skyreaderman, I could have written the exact same comments that you did above. Hairy guys and tighty whiteys really turn me on. Sometimes we even switch tighty whiteys with each other. That is hot, hot, hot!
I’m not into scat or blood..open to much kink…recently discovered piss play and absolutely luv it..have a bud who shares it and recently piss fked me..was so hot inside me..can’t get it out of my mind. I really want to get into felching..I want to lick a freshly fucked and filled hole..maybe share it with the bottom..it’s a cuckold fantasy seeing my partner/buddy getting used!
Feet. I’m a top who enjoys a man with unprettied, masculine feet.
In short, my kinks are daddies, facials, edging and group sex. In long, this fantasy gives you more context. Daddy wanted to watch as I pleasure his friends and get my face drenched in cum. IF I’m good, he promised to give me permission to cum while getting fucked by the last man. Daddy brought them into the room 3 men at a time. All of the men looked 65 or older.Each set of 3 men treated me differently. Some were very tender as I pleasured them on the bed and they told me what a “good boy” I was.… Read more »
My biggest kink is gangbangs. I love multiple guys taking their turns coming on me or in me. I love being in a sling and having multiple guys fuck me. And I really love doing that while wearing a leatherhood so that I can’t see who’s fucking me.