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Bathing together might sound like something out of a romance movie or a bygone era, but for some gay men, it’s a quietly intimate ritual that’s still very much alive—and deeply appreciated. Whether it’s about reconnecting, relaxing, or simply rinsing off after a sweaty tennis match (or sex), the shared experience of soaking in a tub offers closeness and intimacy like no other.

A recent post by a gay man online brought back those warm, sudsy memories for many when he shared:

Bathing together is underrated. A guy I’ve seen a few times came over yesterday after a tennis match. Usually I wouldn’t mind some sweat, but he was soaked, so he wanted us to take a bath together. We ran a big tub of hot water and got in together. I hadn’t done that in a long time, and I’d forgotten how nice it is.

So now we’re curious—is bathing together still a thing in your world? Do you love it, miss it, or find it a bit too much? Is it more like wham, bam, thank you man in your experience?

One gay man shared how bathing together became a cherished ritual in his relationship:
“We have a big jacuzzi tub and we get in it a lot. I sit between his legs and his arms are around me. The bathroom is only lit by the scented candles we have around the tub. Sometimes we talk and other times we just enjoy the peace. It’s so nice.”
His story presented a serene image you can almost feel—warm water, soft candlelight, and quiet comfort.

For others, bathing together is simply part of daily life. One man wrote: “My husband and I shower together almost daily. It’s a great mix of sexy, intimate and even goofy.”
Another agreed, adding: “My husband and I shower together often. We wash each other’s bodies. We get erections and know to dry off and head to bed for sex.” These responses highlight the balance many couples find between intimacy and practicality—turning routine hygiene into quality time.

But it isn’t always about sex. At least for this guy who noted the beauty of nonsexual touch:
“Me and my partner take showers whenever we’re both home and going out (usually every weekend) but 90% of the time it’s not even a sex thing. He just does my back and shoulders and I him… of course we’re playful but I think the nonsexual stuff is just as important if not more than the physical.”

Others reflected on the past with longing: “I used to do this every night with my first love; it was so beautiful. Almost 4 years later I still miss him and think about him.” Sometimes, it’s not just about the act itself, but what it represents: trust, love, shared routines, and unforgettable connection.

Practicality came up too. One person joked: “I would need a massive bath to do this… I like to be completely submerged in a bath (except for head of course) and I’m too big to do that with anyone else in there. The idea sounds quite nice but it would need to be a hot tub situation.”

So, what about you, Adam4Adam blog readers? Do you like to bathe or shower with your partner or hookup? Do you find it sexy and soothing? What does shared bathing mean in your relationships—past or present? We’d love to hear your thoughts and stories. Comment down below!

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