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Bathing together might sound like something out of a romance movie or a bygone era, but for some gay men, it’s a quietly intimate ritual that’s still very much alive—and deeply appreciated. Whether it’s about reconnecting, relaxing, or simply rinsing off after a sweaty tennis match (or sex), the shared experience of soaking in a tub offers closeness and intimacy like no other.
A recent post by a gay man online brought back those warm, sudsy memories for many when he shared:
Bathing together is underrated. A guy I’ve seen a few times came over yesterday after a tennis match. Usually I wouldn’t mind some sweat, but he was soaked, so he wanted us to take a bath together. We ran a big tub of hot water and got in together. I hadn’t done that in a long time, and I’d forgotten how nice it is.
So now we’re curious—is bathing together still a thing in your world? Do you love it, miss it, or find it a bit too much? Is it more like wham, bam, thank you man in your experience?
One gay man shared how bathing together became a cherished ritual in his relationship:
“We have a big jacuzzi tub and we get in it a lot. I sit between his legs and his arms are around me. The bathroom is only lit by the scented candles we have around the tub. Sometimes we talk and other times we just enjoy the peace. It’s so nice.”
His story presented a serene image you can almost feel—warm water, soft candlelight, and quiet comfort.
For others, bathing together is simply part of daily life. One man wrote: “My husband and I shower together almost daily. It’s a great mix of sexy, intimate and even goofy.”
Another agreed, adding: “My husband and I shower together often. We wash each other’s bodies. We get erections and know to dry off and head to bed for sex.” These responses highlight the balance many couples find between intimacy and practicality—turning routine hygiene into quality time.
But it isn’t always about sex. At least for this guy who noted the beauty of nonsexual touch:
“Me and my partner take showers whenever we’re both home and going out (usually every weekend) but 90% of the time it’s not even a sex thing. He just does my back and shoulders and I him… of course we’re playful but I think the nonsexual stuff is just as important if not more than the physical.”
Others reflected on the past with longing: “I used to do this every night with my first love; it was so beautiful. Almost 4 years later I still miss him and think about him.” Sometimes, it’s not just about the act itself, but what it represents: trust, love, shared routines, and unforgettable connection.
Practicality came up too. One person joked: “I would need a massive bath to do this… I like to be completely submerged in a bath (except for head of course) and I’m too big to do that with anyone else in there. The idea sounds quite nice but it would need to be a hot tub situation.”
So, what about you, Adam4Adam blog readers? Do you like to bathe or shower with your partner or hookup? Do you find it sexy and soothing? What does shared bathing mean in your relationships—past or present? We’d love to hear your thoughts and stories. Comment down below!
When locking in a first time meeting with a guy, I always suggest a shower or bath. First, as an ice breaker. Second, as a way to “check the lay of the land” and to see what his hot spots are and what he looks like head to toe. And third, to ensure we’re both scrubbed up and ready for good sex with no funky or smelly issues. Sometimes when I’ve connected on line with an FWB, if I’ve gotten sweaty/nasty during a busy day, I’ll say “I should shower first. Would you like to help?” New guys who aren’t… Read more »
I prefer the shower! Or fucking in a pool is fun but bathtubs are too constricting
I enjoy showering with a man, I like for him to just stand there and let me wash his body, but I like to soap the towel and lather up his big hard chest down to his stomach, and because I’m bald it doesn’t matter if my head gets wet, so with the warm water running, I like drop to my knees and wash and lather up his dick and wash it very gently and gently massaging his jewels, then rinse his dick and take it into my mouth and give him a slow and sensual sucking while the water… Read more »
Cleopatra bathed in Donkey Milk; gay men bathe in body wash which is more preferred?
I had great sex last night and we got things started by taking a sexy sensual shower together. Nice ice-breaker and since I’m something of a hygiene fanatic, during and afterwards I love to be able to then dig into all of his body all freshly cleaned, especially when my tongue starts digging inside his ass.
I love hanging in a hot tub together
I haven’t bathed with a male or female in over 10 years, not counting times of being with either in a business that has a sauna. I’ve reached the age–61 years young–where I prefer bathing in a shower together vs. a bath; less water hits the floor outside of a shower vs. standing up to switch places in a tub. But, that’s just me. Otherwise, go for it guys! And to you tops, don’t drop the soap in a community shower!
OMG!! YES!!! Showering together is great … slip sliding against one another, washing each other ALL over, the kisses and sometime sex…makes me nearly faint just thinking about it. Even now.
I wud be into bathing with a guy if my current tub was large enough, and i have a tub larger than most..Case in pt: tomorrow i plan to have a 6’5″ bodybuilder over.. there is no way both of us could get in my tub..i am doubtful as to whether he alone could take a bath by himself in there.. My ex and i wud shower together all the time.. i really loved soaping each other up and letting our fingers go places.. That being said, i have gone out with guys who hated baths–even solo–and would only shower… Read more »
Shower all the way.
Was never a bath guy,
It grosses me out to sit in dirty water so thats a dick shrinker!