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Time and again this question is posed online. In fact, just recently one guy asked: “Is the average dick size really 5.5?” He then proceeded to say:
Not that I’m a huge floozy or anything, but I’ve been with/talked with a decent number of guys. Maybe 10 seriously. Of those 10, and if I want to include myself in the dataset, only 2 have a dick under 6 inches. Most of them are at least 6.5. I can tell just by looking and comparing with my own.
What’s the reason for this? Are gay guys more hung? Are hung guys more likely to top? Am I just randomly getting this many guys that are above average?
We did a quick googling, and found this article saying that the “average penis is between 5.1 and 5.5 inches, with one study finding that nearly everyone falls within this range.” The study made no mention of the survey respondents’ sexual orientation though they did emphasize that the “research says the average penis size is a lot smaller than what most people believe it is and usually looks nothing like what you see in porn.”
Meanwhile, a gay man shared on the thread that a few years ago, he came across a study discussing the average size of gay and bisexual men, which indicated that their penis size might be larger than those of heterosexual men. However, he said that he is “Not sure how true or accurate that is though.”
In response to his post, one gay man confirmed that indeed, there was such a study, and even shared a link to the article that you can access here. In summary, the study confirmed that gay men were found to have significantly larger penises. Specifically, the measured erect length for gay men averaged 6.46 inches, while it was 6.14 inches for straight men. In terms of measured erect circumference, gay men had an average of 4.95 inches, whereas straight men measured at 4.80 inches.
Now that we’ve established the average penis size, does it matter to you?
When it comes to the question of whether size matters or not, particularly in the context of relationships and intimacy, this is a subject of considerable debate and personal preference. Meaning that individual experiences and opinions vary in that while some people place more importance on physical attributes like penis size, others prioritize emotional connection, communication, trust, and various other aspects of a relationship.
Having said all that, what about you, guys, does penis size matter to you? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below.
I’ve been sucking cock for over 55 years! And I can say that the average cock really is about 5.5″. I have no idea what kind of ruler everyone else is using or where they are measuring. I have yet to see a ‘big’ (7″ +) cock. Definitely on my bucket list. Not sure what I could do with it, but could be fun to find out.
Part of the problem is guys just eyeball it and think “this looks about average, so it must be 6 or 7 inches”. If they really care (and I’m not sure why they would), they need to measure from the tip to the base – NOT THE TAINT – and record that measurement. Most data on this subject gives an average of between 5.0″ and 5.5″.
There are places to go to where you will see 7+”: any black community, Africa, Jamacia, Germany,
Belgium, Israel; Russia; Middle East, et al.
7+” may noy be indigenous to your local community but if you spread out, length can be de facto!
I’ve been with many men of color. Hate to disappoint you , but I still haven’t seen any big ones.I have lived in Italy, Japan, Texas, Northern California and other states. No big cocks
You did not disappoint me.
Just wanted to offer another perspective on what you posted.
you must be a a very unlucky dicksucker. Most of the men of color i have been with, especially Black and Latino Men are 7+ inches. And that has been on the east coast and west coast and NOLA
yes, you’re right, 5 and 1/2 is average .. i’d say for white dudes (possibly hispanics), it’s a 7, most of them seem to fall into that length, bigger for african-americans, indians (south asian) and middle eastern
for asian, probably smaller but close to 5 for average, honey
There’s no evidence that the variation in penis size among different ethnicities is in any way statistically significant.
Size does matter to alot gay or bisexual men…that want to experience that level of sexual activity after what they have seen in porn…for example pornhub or onlyfans…fyi they want amazing sex and not just average.
Size means nothing to me, its the guy that it is attached to, that matters.
Topping skills matter, even if my guy is around 5 inches, it’s all about hips, legs and thrusting abilities with stamina.
Well now I do think gay men favor large cocks. I am a solid nine inches erect (not internet inches BTW..lol) and always attract smiles and favorable attention at gyms and occasional bathhouse visits. A week ago visited bathhouse in large city and had non-stop action all the time I was there. Of course, cock size is not everything, personality matters as well, I am a friendly, outgoing person with interest and respect for others. Having a big cock is a plus in the total scheme of things!
Never have been into size, it’s the person that counts!
I fall in the range of 5.1”-5.5″ range and considered myself to be smaller than average until I started meeting other guys in the same range size.
Topping skills matter much more than size, along with passion
I had looked up studies, both self-reported and medically measured, and I had seen those numbers. I had considered that gay men might inflate (!) but I did consider other possibilities. Some researcher had remarked that gay men tended to show facial and other body hair a bit sooner, and that they tended to begin masturbation, in some form, earlier than heterosexual males. I do not know if that was replicated by others, but anecdotally, it seems common. With regard to the effect of size on sexual activity and satisfaction, I find that excessive size can lead to challenges with… Read more »
Perfectly said. I don’t bottom positionally., anally, but if I was in love, if I had to; I just prefer them cut, nice girth about; give or take 5 to 7 lengthwise, not too much either way; but really desirable-appealing in its form, shape and color; orally, mouthwatering, like the rest of him-head to toe, literally . . . But big hands and wide clean feet, handsome ass, too and tight, facial hair, hair period, a little sweaty after work, like, Ugh!!! I LOVE to get a really good reaction because I can completely manipulate-stimulate him to utter quivering- puddy,… Read more »
The size of the penis doesn’t matter at all. The only thing I request is that it’s freshly showered. I do love a grower!!! I always say the best thing to come out of the penis is the wrinkles!!!!
Can I add that the way a guy looks and acts and smell is also very important. There are guys that have ‘big ones’ but lack good looks, great higiene and manners.
So how many times are you going rehash this same issue? Seems like the third or fourth time to me. Funny how the responses are the same. 1) The average dick is smaller than what most people think. 2) Gay & bi men seem to have bigger dicks than straight men.
How about talking about hygene? Ask guys how they learned how to douche. Ask guys if they douched before the first time they got fucked, or did they even know about it.
Responding to the blog questions are optional. This is a free site and they can rehash similar are same subjects if they chose too. I do agree that personal hygiene is very important. It can make or break a sex session. You hit the nail on the head talking about douching. I knew absolutely nothing about douching. I didn’t know men did this. When I got the courage to bottom, a experienced top asked me was I clean back there. I told him sure being I had took a long, hot, soapy tub bath. It was a disaster. Very messy!!!!!!!!
It is the result of stimulating both the inner and outer sphincter muscles! It is an involuntary reaction.
Passion and chemistry along with creativity matters more.
I do believe I’ve measured mine properly to be 7″, but don’t think it’s at all that freaklishly big. I’d estimate that the majority of guys I’ve been with have been about 6 or 7. As for the others, I don’t usually care about size unless it dips below 5″; then it’s not all that satisfying to s*ck.
It matters some to me. 6-8 inches is ideal in terms of handling, and fitting my mouth. That extra length inspires me, but thickness is just as important. Too-thick, no, and too-thin no. Meaty, not noodly, and not a beercan. But it’s better to be less fussy. A smaller cock is much easier to suck, and probably ideal for being fucked. I don’t why anyone would want a guy’s cock in their colon.
Give me a guy under 7″ any day. I “weigh in” at 5.5” long with a 5.5” in girth. Since I’m not a Top, I’ve never been told I was too small. When (and I meaning like maybe 6 times in 15 years) a guy has mentioned my size, they’ve said it’s great. Size matters for me. I never care how small a guy is or how hard (or not) he may become. Even my regular partners do not show up for sex with the same size and rock hard cock every time we meet for sex. This is normal.… Read more »
Yes, I agree!
I can tell you , I am a 7 inch. If I post picture of, My hard 7 inch. I get hit on more. Can also tell you because I am in my 60’s now. I do not see as much play.
As a bottom I very rarely find guys to be as big as advertised. First off, measure in insertable inches! So, measure from your scrotum to the tip from underneath your cock! If you measure from the top you are overstating your size by an inch and a half at least!!
Anyone can do a “G” search and see the average penis size in the world and can even find out what they are by country. Hint: African and South American countries tend to be the largest average and Asian countries tend to be the smallest. That said, I’ve seen about 100 up close and persona in the US. The average has been around 6-6.5 by my estimation. The largest was 8.5 uncut and it was quite thick. It was attached to a Black man. The smallest was about 4 cut and was attached to an Asian man. I’m not trying… Read more »
So about George Santos (Republican Congressman) revealing last month he had a husband, Matheus Gerard? Covered by several prominent LGTBQ+ media. No big splash across media sites though.
Must just not be big news for some media sites. Or maybe Gay Republicans extinguish the fire of some people’s political hate.
i am 6’5″ and 250lbs so I NEED a cock on the “bigger” side to feel it
The gay study’s results are depressing as I do not fall within that range. Add to the fact that my girlfriend at the time as well as a boyfriend in the past made some hurtful comments that after 20 plus years I still cannot get over. It’s not like guys can go out and get a penis job like a woman can get her boobs done and have an instant confidence boost. The majority of my partners in the past have been considerably larger with only a few exceptions, only adding to the inadequacy that I feel mostly everyday. Rarely… Read more »
I am 5’7″, 130 pounds, 70 y/o, and 10 inches engorged. Due to ageism in our community, and genetics, I only claim fifty of my years – and easily get away with my deception since I look 50 (I always divulge the truth, but only AFTER sex. I get ‘carded’ sometimes…). My dick requires no pharmaceutical, chemical, or mechanical assistance to remain engorged for four hours. I am very accustomed to my endowment – but many of my lovers go crazy over it…. Works for me….
You sound perfect to me. Always have found well hung short guys incredibly sexy.
I would certainly let you do me!
Hate to say this but mother is in charge. Humans don’t kill each other over sex. 3 guys show up to bang a bitch, big dick wins. It’s nature’s call. The losers go to find someone else!
Mother nature.is in charge.
I’m 4-1/2″ on a good day and let me tell you, it’s embarrassing. I was once kicked out of a hotel room right after dropping shorts. And all the gay guys I know get more excited seeing a large bulge and underwhelmed seeing a smaller or no bulge at all.
So, I do think size matters.
Oh, and if i had my choice, I’d rather suck a smaller cock – one that doesn’t make me choke and gag.
One thing to be careful with is study methodology. First, the main study you cited, is based upon Kinsey’s research in which measurements were made by professionals in a controlled environment. The second study of gay men stated that the data was self-reported. Although that study may have included directions on how to measure, there is going to be response bias that is introduced in any study that is self-reported. Psychologically, as many men tend to think the average size is larger than it actually is, there may be pressure on a respondent to pad their reporting. This is hard… Read more »
I’m pretty certain there WERE no bikinis in Disraeli’s era. In fact, were one to have appeared, the entire population probably would have had heart attacks upon sight. A google search does attribute the saying, however, to one Aaron Levenstein.
One thing to be careful with is study methodology. First, the main study you cited, is based upon Kinsey’s research in which measurements were made by professionals in a controlled environment. The second study of gay men stated that the data was self-reported. Although that study may have included directions on how to measure, there is going to be response bias that is introduced in any study that is self-reported. Psychologically, as many men tend to think the average size is larger than it actually is, there may be pressure on a respondent to pad their reporting. This is hard… Read more »
I have a buddy that is bi, like myself as we have hung out and he gives massages. I was curious and things arose between the two of us. I will say that he is bigger than I as he was 3 inches more than what I was packing. Both of us are clean freaks and that is why I think we hit it off very well, even after a sweaty workout. My 6, he could fit in his mouth well but his 9, I couldn’t but I tried. Size does not matter as it is the person attached to… Read more »
What an age-old question this is! I believe it is a matter of personal preference. I have had my share of a variety of sizes. The very first one to take my anal virginity was 11 3/4 inches, I was 19 and he was white. We became lovers for a few years, but the furrow was plowed. I looked and looked in the white community, nothing was satisfactory. I, therefore, went into the black community; I found what I needed, and I have never gone back to the other community. Pleasure, joy, and experience played a great amount of influence… Read more »
Hey guys,I’ve enyoed being a bi-bottom for a long time. 2 wives 2 girlfriends, one found me out. LOL. I bottomed out for many guys over the years in the 5 states that I covered with job. I kept count few years back of how many deep throats Ienjoyed receiving, how many cocks had taken my ass. I love to be fucked. I only 2 meet 2 guys and one lady now. One is 6.5 inches fat cums in me 3 times, feels very good. My other fuck buddy is a large black guy twicw my weight. His dick is… Read more »
I am Bi sexual and married to a female. She new from the start of our relationship 20 years ago that I was Bi and have at times with her included joined in a bisexul partnership with myself and another male. But only with her approving of the male. And then come to find pout that He is more interested in the female. And this has happened every time. I told her I need a relationship with a man but never takes me seriously and I’m getting more and more depressed and My self worth is at a big time… Read more »
I’m in the same situation only she doesn’t know. Would love to find the same situation
Size does not matter It is what is driving your cock that makes the difference.
I think alot of white guys like to think 5- 5.5 inches is average so they don’t feel bad. 5 -5.5 certainly isn’t average for Black men
I’m average-sized and have fucked guys with twice as big penises who keep coming back for more. Several have said I should do porn (take it as a compliment). Sure, there are size queens and men whose anatomy requires bigger tools. But chemistry, vibe and skill win the game. After all, dick size isn’t something you can change so find the right partners. There are plenty.
Topping abilities mean more to me than size. I’ve had cocks from one inch to eight, but the best sex I’ve ever had in my life was with a guy that had five and a half inches. He wasn’t overly endowed, but he knew how to pound me right through a mattress!
I googled this topic. Almost every scientific article states average size is 5”-5 1/2” ERECT. I am only 4” soft but 6 1/2” inches erect and thickness. I am a grower not a shower. I am not embarrassed when erect but I am a little self conscious when I am soft. It doesn’t matter because I am all bottom with a man. It is my ass that I like to show off and get attention. I love my ass to be played with, rimmed, kissed, spanked, suck on my hole and fuck me. I do not care for hung or… Read more »