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Chemistry is everything; don’t you think so, too? If there is this one thing that could tell whether we have hope or chance of ever becoming anything to someone at all—our fuck buddy, friends with benefits, friend, etc.—it’s our chemistry with them. Or lack of it.
Which brings us to our question for the day: what are the traits that attract you to a person? What are these traits, whether physical or mental, that is an instant turn on for you?
The gay men on Reddit have spoken and below are some of the male traits that they find attractive:
- According to user vilify97: “I’m not sure why, but long hair on guys makes them 10 times hotter to me.”
- For user Jackmanjoe111, it’s the guy’s legs (calf muscles) + socks
- Willowman321 said, “Green eyes!”
- A reader named quitehopelessguy on the other hand, answered, “body hair, the more the better.” This seemed to be a popular answer although the other respondents were more specific like Cryso_L who said, “Facial hair! If you have a nice beard you’ll catch my attention for sure.” While pweqpw quipped: “hairy forearms.”
- But attractiveness isn’t just about a person’s physical looks, for others like DEprEsED-HomosExual, it is possible to get sexually attracted due to someone else’s voice. He asked, “Is voice à physical trait? Like I can get hard just because a guy has a deep voice.”
- For user pelecypod, it’s all about posture. He said, “A great body with terrible posture turns me off.”
- According to user andieee919, he is attracted to “tall, thicc guys.” He added that he “doesn’t care about the dick size, as long as they love me.” He also said the guy must not be “racist to all races,” that he must be, “nice and understanding,” and “smart and has a good future for himself.”
- User Freudian-Slip93 on the other hand, answered, “Height. At 6’4 I see a lot of shorter guys mostly so the tall men are a nice treat.”
- A user named okjk0123 revealed that it’s “natural big lips” for him.
- For Aelronn however, it’s a number of traits not just one. He cited, “a smooth and flawless neck.” Further, he said, “Maybe add a mole or two. Ooh and with sweat. And when they tilt their heads back showing their Adam’s apple.”
What about you guys, what are the traits or things that men do that turn you on? Please don’t forget to share your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!
Masculine #1. Also for me mannerism means a lot to me. I like quiet, confident guys that listens and don’t profess to know everything. Guys with mild tempers and cool under pressure situations. Non drama guys. Men that embrace alone time. Outdoors man/sportsman type guys such as hunting, race cars, football games. Well-rounded guys that can converse about most any and everything.
I’m having a hard time with this new thing of “drama” or “non-drama” being used as an adjective. Have we forgotten how to speak English? The adjectival form of drama is “dramatic”. I know it’s an anonymous social media post, but let’s step up our game and not try to look like complete illiterates.
I’m cool with your criticism and can take it like a man. I must have hit a nerve. Lol. I didn’t proofread what I wrote because I didn’t know my essay would be graded. You know nothing about me or my educational background. This is not that serious!!!!!! You have a great day and enjoy this beautiful weather.
That’s what I like about you, man, you’re so classy!
what’s all this about class and manners and good grammar.. if he pulls down his pants and he’s got a big dick I immediately get turn on…
Lmao, lite-hearted Bill, having fun with all of this, don’t blame you, some levity always lightens-up everything.
I couldn’t have said that any better! Perfect! We should stop beating up on each other. I don’t think using the phrase ‘Non drama’ or ‘no drama’ makes one look like a “complete illiterate”. In fact I will go as far as saying that literacy level is just fine or better than most people I read in online blog post!
Thanks Lamar and Terry.
I’m a bigger man..
You know I love you Lamar!!!
Lamar nothing but love brotha and nice too Matt
Excellent response. John needs to chill out.
There are a few things that attract me to another man. Long hair can be sexy on some guys.Eyes are a must. and me i like a guy with sexy feet.Also Tattoos are hot provided you dont get carried away with them
Wondering how many guys have you run into that don’t have eyes?
Wow, that’s not what he’s sayin’, quite literal, aren’t you? He’s referring to what he finds ‘physically’ attractive.
A fit guy that has a talent at rimming and a multiple, thick and heavy shooter. Also a TG/CD/Trap with a smoking hot ass.
Who calls trans women “traps”? What are you, a fucking Neanderthal? Grow the fuck up.
That could have just as easily been a typo. Chill out already.
Looks like you and I both have the least welcomed opinions. I know why.
Because you’re both transphobes who use the word “trap”? What’s next? Are you going to pull out the word “tranny,” too? So gross.
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What the hell are you on? Your ramble makes no sense.
Personality is sexy. A great smile and friendliness
I’m totally crazy for non-masculine guys with that androgynous/femme look, but, without being swishy about it. I guess that’s the pretty boy/sissy/trap look? I’m really not typically interested in guys at all unless they look like that.
I’ve learned from years and painful experience, that physical features and pedigree (e.g. wealth, education, career, etc) only go so far. As a bisexual man and a father of two teenagers, I’m trying to teach both my kids (a boy and a girl) that the most important thing—beyond looks and all the superficial stuff—is how the other person makes you FEEL.
Out of all the replies on this subject, YOURS is THE BEST and REALISTIC worthy one to read and agree with. Thank you….
I am attracted to well developed legs and thighs and well maintained facial hair, masculinity is important as well as intelligence.
Shaved punes are the greatest turn pn for me
Pass. Prunes make me constipated.
A sexy smile
I find it exceedingly sexy for a man to “have his shit together”. For him to be smart, self supporting, and able to fix anything, all the better. I definitely prefer a masculine guy. Being hairy is a bonus and a total top is a homerun. Add love and respect in the mix and it’s a recipe for a life of bliss.
I’m attracted to men, regular guys who exhibit traditional male traits. Not guys who have robust grooming regimes. Not model types. Not guys tied up in high end fashion or the latest trends in products. Not those with oppressive, intolerant one-sided views on social issues. Regular guys like you see in many profiles on A4A. Regular guys with average builds and looks. Regular guys like long term friends and neighbors. Guys who are as concerned about your satisfaction during sex as their own.
Masculine, nerdy-intelligent, confident, spiritually-aware, he’s comfortable with himself-making himself comfortable wherever; he’s a nonconformist-having his own mind, strong on many levels. He’s generous in spirit, not selfish and greedy, ethical, has a healthy sense of empathy, patient and understanding, nurturing. He stands up for himself and those who cannot He’s conversational about a great many things, I really admire a self-made man who lives his own life according to who he knows himself to be, based on the experiences his life has shown him. Physically, I have many types; ethnically, I see many, many, because that’s just the handsome package,… Read more »
Confidence, sense of humor, self-depricating humor, modesty (guys that describe themselves as “average” or “regular” always end up being hotties), employed or useful, fit to average builds, would never “manscape” or go girly on me, killer smiles and soulful blue eyes. A big dick never helps.
Has a masculine married bottom , dominant men of color are my weakness. Once in bed I’m a slutty bottom love giving myself up lol best sex ever for me
I note alot of guys are citing personality, masculinity, etc.
But I took the question to be what turns you on at first glance.
For me that’s biceps.
As to those other comments, I wholly agree that a douchey personality or whatever can completely ruin everything, no matter how hot a guy looks.
I’m amazed, though, at the number of comments I read in facebook groups and so on about personality not being a factor: “Hey, as long as he has a huge cock and a great ass, I’m good.”
Oh, and shaved pubes: Instant buzzkill.
All right then. lets have it! Physically: his build, almost regardless of his height, I love ’em good and sturdy because in most cases he won’t be my height, too rare for me to encounter. A really striking head of thick-unruly dark-hair or s&p (sometimes, like my last lover; red-hair) facial-hair. I love a schmoozer (mouth) like a lion like he could eat you (broadmouth/w-big white teeth, at least somewhat full lips) love the fuck outta seriously passionate kissing, big hands and feet as I detest little ones. I’m not into really big dicks, but a good thick 7inch, preferable… Read more »
i hear people say oh I want a tall guy or a short guy….. Too many people are way overly obsessed with Looks or Who’s the top or the bottom. He has to have this kind of hair. He has to have that kind, or drive a certain car or own a certain type of home…. What turns me on about a guy is someone who isn’t stuck on trivial crap! Someone who treats others with fairness and respect. Not one of these hypocrites you find that go to LGBT pride a shouting treat me fair treat me with respect,… Read more »
Give the classy, elegant, refined, intelligent, career oriented non flamboyant fem/transgender who has it together and don’t need our approval. SAPIOSEXUAL!!!!!
I am bisexual…race is not in issue with me… I get turned on by a clean cut tall slim nice body.. no body odor..I am not really that picky..if it’s just sex… I really do go wild for a guy who has a big huge bulge in his jeans…
I agree, a big bulge turns me on more than anything….
I’m into slim to average build guys with shaved body. From there it’s all about pleasuring each other’s cock and ass in every possible way.
I’m attracted to good looks, clear & smooth skin, intelligent conversation, and he better have a hard dick when we’re together. If he’s not attracted to me, then I’m not going to be attracted to him.
a man who treats his friend, lover as a human being and cares about him and who willing to enjoy being with him
I am not sure why gay MEN get thrown into a larger mix.
I’m a bi male who like masculinity in another dude…his chemistry, his vibe..his swagger…Nice hands, lips and a nice ass to grab. His whole demeanor.
I like them fem, transgender, transsexual or female…I’m bisexual. I only like flamboyant behavior in private… if you got a career and have in together you don’t need public approval of your life. Do you and keep it moving.
I’m pretty eclectic when it comes to looks and like a broad spectrum of physical traits on a man. And, being a gay man who identifies as “versatile”, those traits, along with personality and body language, dictate a passive/bottom, aggressive/top, better yet, flip role. Looks only get my attention though. And, it takes chemistry, mutual interests, respect, and compatible personalities to sustain that interest for anything longer term. Rugged/handsome looks on a man as tall or taller than I am with an extroverted personality brings out the passive side of me. Drew Sebastian, Nick Moretti, Austin Wolf types. Dirty blonde/light… Read more »